The ‘Vcel’ Movement
The ‘Vcel’ Movement
I hate the “incel” moniker. Throughout 99% of history, 99% of men have been incels for long periods. I was celibate until I was 19 — not by choice. I wanted a girlfriend in high school, but was largely sidelined from the dating game by afflictions common among teen boys: I was painfully skinny and insecure, with bad skin. So I got to work. I enrolled at UCLA, hit the gym, focused on ways to demonstrate excellence (for me it was humor), built friendships with women, and surrounded myself with the impressive men of ZBT. I worked hard and developed the callouses that nearly every successful person has: I learned how to mourn and move on, to endure rejection.
By the middle of sophomore year, I had my first girlfriend. There were a lot of “firsts” in the relationship, but two stand out: Melanie was the first woman I was “me” around, instead of trying to be someone I thought she’d like. And we loved each other. Having an impressive person who could date other men choose and love you is profound.
Struggling to find a romantic partner is normal. Today, however, a dangerous ideology is infecting many young men, who see their incel status as inevitable, and even embrace it, blaming women instead of trying to better themselves. Many aren’t incels, but vcels — voluntary celibates who choose resentment over self-improvement.
Real Problems
The challenges young men face are real. In school, boys fall behind their female peers and are much less likely to become valedictorians and go to college, with the education system biased against them and girls mature faster. American tax policy increasingly transfers money from the young to the old. We’ve adopted a scarcity mindset that only benefits incumbents — and the rising costs for housing and education that result take an especially heavy toll on young men, who are disproportionately evaluated on their economic prospects. Big Tech profits through sequestration and enragement, while digitizing dating has resulted in a winner-take-most environment.
Rather than addressing the problem, leaders on both ends of the political spectrum have inflamed the crisis. The left ignored young men in the lead-up to the last presidential election, espousing the belief that they didn’t have a problem, they were the problem. The far right filled the void with misogynistic, racist, and otherwise hateful messages, arguing that the answer was to send women and non-white people back to the 50s. But here’s the bottom line: Nobody is entitled to reproduce, nor obligated to serve another group. Women are ascending; it’s a collective achievement. Men need to level up.
How to Level Up: The Rule of Threes
Government programs and societal shifts will help, but young men should, and will, shoulder most of the responsibility — one that most are addressing but too many abdicate as they slide deeper into the darkness of frictionless online relationships.
These young men fail to recognize the agency they have to transform their lives, instead donning an incel badge to justify their sense of victimhood. My message to young men: Being an incel isn’t a burden you’re destined to bear. If you’ve surrendered, sitting at home all day watching porn, bingeing Netflix, and playing Diablo, that’s on you.
We need to model a healthier vision. My advice: Exercise three times a week, work at least 30 hours a week out of the house, and push yourself into the company of strangers at least three times a month, even if you’re an introvert. This strategy will make you more attractive and increase your odds of finding a partner. Following this rule of threes will put you into the 95th percentile of young men. If you can stay there long enough, you’ll likely have the opportunity to be voluntarily incelibate … which is awesome.
It’s easier to get a job than it has been for most of the last 100 years. Youth unemployment is hovering around 10%, historically low. When I was young, unsure if I could pay tuition, I took any job. If you’re reading this and living with your parents, you should, too. I’m going to Davos next week on my own plane, but I got there by waiting tables, carrying groceries, and hauling golf bags 5 miles in the humid Ohio summer.
On both the economic and social fronts, there are ways to overcome your obstacles and become a better man: Get an apprenticeship. Join a team. Go to a church, synagogue, or mosque. Develop a kindness practice. Learn how to approach people. This is harder in an age when many people are addicted to YouTube and TikTok and third spaces are disappearing, but increasing your risk appetite for the real world is essential.
Red Pill
Adolescence, the gut-wrenching Netflix miniseries that won four Golden Globes earlier this week, stoked the debate about “incel” culture, shining a light on the threats posed by social media influencers known for their misogynistic views. The drama, which follows a 13-year-old boy accused of murdering a female classmate, tackled symbols such as the “red pill,” a metaphor taken from the 1999 movie The Matrix. Keanu Reeves’s character, Neo, must choose between a blue pill, which will keep him in a state of blissful ignorance, or a red pill, which will awaken him to a painful but enlightening reality. In the manosphere, people who make the latter decision have accepted the supposed “truths” about gender roles, including the idea that the world is unfairly stacked against unattractive and awkward heterosexual men. Here’s the truth pill, re sex: Throughout history, 40% of men and 80% of women have reproduced. In the U.S. today, an estimated 75% and 85% of men and women will reproduce, respectively. American men today are twice as likely to procreate as their ancestors.
Another incel conviction — fed by dating apps that separate potential partners into a small group of haves and a massive cohort of have-nots — is that most men will never find romantic satisfaction, because 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men. The bottom 80% of male Tinder users, based on percentage of likes received, are competing for the bottom 22% of women. This leads me to the same conclusion: Young men need real-world venues where they can demonstrate excellence to women, who are more discerning than they are.
The incel movement was in motion long before Adolescence. The term emerged in the late 1990s on a website dubbed Alana’s Involuntary Celibacy Project, created by a university student who wanted to provide an inclusive hub for people of all genders and orientations who had trouble dating. Instead, the term was hijacked as a “weapon of war,” and the community morphed into a nihilistic, misogynistic subculture.
Our society is producing far too many self-described incels who think it’s acceptable, even aspirational, to give up on relationships, and who become susceptible to biases against women and immigrants. Most will not harm others — their loathing is usually reserved for themselves. About two-thirds of incels say they’ve considered suicide. Instead of retreating amid increased scrutiny, social media accounts are widening their audience and rebranding to bypass bans. Adding fuel to the flame, the algorithms boost many female influencers whose misandry cosplays as social commentary.
Off-Ramp
Many young men are genuinely trying to forge connections but stumbling over economic and social hurdles — struggles that Democrats are finally starting to take seriously after watching this demographic help Donald Trump retake the White House.
With young men continuing to feel frustation and malaise more than a year into the president’s second term, the Democrats have a chance to win them back. Empathy isn’t zero-sum. The party, and society more broadly, can build on the gains women have registered over the past three decades, while also supporting boys and men.
Young men themselves are part of the solution. Women aren’t to blame for their relationship woes, just as immigrants aren’t responsible for America’s economic problems. Men need to seize the opportunity to become better, and we need to provide an off-ramp for red-pilled men who believe the mating market is rigged against them, helping to prevent their descent into bitterness and potential extremism.
Many young men struggle with mental health — understandable given the challenges they face. But here’s a truth the manosphere won’t tell you: In the end, meaningful relationships are the only things that matter. If you’re alone and resigned to being nutrition for Big Tech, you need to reset and commit to becoming voluntarily incelibate. If you sequester from other mammals, the anxiety and depression you’ll ultimately feel will dwarf any terror about disappointment that exists in the outside world — isolation is the only danger that compounds.
Life is so rich,
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Scott always does such a good job of pretending men that fail did it to themselves.
Men that couldn’t get jobs over the last 10 years, as highlighted in Jacob Savage’s The Lost Generation, are no to blame for their failures; we the people that votes in a president that told us he would put discrimination into law did.
Biden’s enhancement to the AAP and mandate to the OFCCP forced illegal discrimination to become the norm. Why Scott thinks that’s the fault of the victims of the policies is something he needs to do a better job explaining, but I highly doubt he’ll ever talk about that.
Those concerned with issues of fairness and blame should note that excuses don’t help, but personal accountability does.
When you’re called “incel” derisively and find out that you do meet the original definition of the word (anyone who hasn’t gotten laid in the past six months), you’re hardly a “self-described incel.”
Scott’s right in that “99 percent of men have been incels for long periods.”
I suspect a lot of men who go online hating or baiting incels may be incels themselves and too stupid to realize it. That goes for the women who do the same thing.
It’s not easy being alone, and most of the talk online directed at incels is toxic.
I finally use the term because I’ve been bullied in person a lot after someone figured out I haven’t been laid in a while. It isn’t voluntary when bullies get in the way enough to chase off the possibilities.
There’s something wrong with a society where males give up when they’re still teenagers. The bashing of incels online isn’t all of it, but it is wrong. It puts pressure on young men at an age that’s too early for that kind of stuff.
I still remember the op-ed some woman wrote that stated that all men are lifted up because she has a high-paying job and married a similarly affluent man.
She felt that even broke men should feel good that her husband is living the good life by sponging off her.
I’m not sure the women who started off further behind and didn’t wind up in an affluent two-income household would think much of her, either.
Terrific, constructive, realistic advice men. As it relates to attraction issues, the biological issues are a reality. There is one point, in my opinion: more women seem to have a “Plan B,” meaning many are always open to better (higher-value) men and prepared to move on if the opportunity appears. Perhaps it is part of their biology as well.
This is one of the most important articles I’ve read in recent history. We are ignoring or maligning young males in many ways-and from many directions. I have a son, 2 grandsons, and male friends who are in their 50s with male children in their early 20s. In all of them I see the results of this misandry…and, yes, it is definitely a “thing”. Much higher expectations are put upon them than upon their female counterparts. And yet, they are disparaged and ridiculed in a myriad of obvious and subtle ways. Not that a number of them don’t deserve it (I’m looking at you ICE thugs, elite Tech bros and low brow woman-haters and racists), but the majority of young men are malleable and simply looking for friendship and romantic relationships with young women.
All the young guys I talk to complain about the lack of physical venues or occasions to actually mingle with and get to know girls/young women.
Your advice is solid, and I’ve echoed it in my talks with my grandsons and young male friends. Anything that puts you in touch with each other is a good thing. From fungi foraging to participating in group sports to going somewhere new where you’re thrown in with others will open doors. You can’t have a serendipitous experience if you are sitting in your room alone.
I think it started as a dream, but I woke up thinking if the “right” want us to live in the 50’s…then legalize prostitution again!…solve the problem that young men are having with woman…It’s not like porn…you don’t always need a “safe word” to have a relationship!…JMO
Prostitution was mostly illegal in the 1950s United States. Yeah, I know it was there if you looked for it, but that’s probably still true today.
France had government-run brothels after the French Revolution. I wouldn’t bring back the guillotine, but I have no objection to the less-sharp socialist idea of brothels.
I don’t plan to lay a hooker just to please sex-obsessed jerks, even if it becomes legal.
Does that make me a vcel? I’m not sure.
Nice.
Scott Galloway is right that the single-earner economy is gone. Where he’s wrong is pretending individual grit can simply replace it. Telling men to “level up” as if effort reliably produces stability, housing, and partnership isn’t tough love—it’s nostalgia. The ladder he climbed no longer exists in the same form.
What’s missing is any serious attention to neurodivergent men. ADHD, autism traits, dyscalculia, and social-processing differences aren’t excuses, but they are constraints. Today’s dating and job markets reward constant self-promotion, polished social performance, and algorithm-friendly charisma. That systematically disadvantages men whose strengths are depth, reliability, and competence rather than social signaling.
Donald Trump’s dad was rich, but he made his kid work on a construction site.
Since our current president worked on a construction site, he could say he got where he is through his own hard labor.
I don’t doubt Trump’s dad made him work, but I’m sure the president got a lot more help than most of us get.
I recently coined the term “Recel” on Urban Dictionary:
Recel
A formerly sexually active man who has since become involuntarily celibate due to changes in appearance, life circumstances, or relationship status (e.g., post-divorce, midlife weight gain, balding, etc.). Distinguishes from lifelong incels by prior sexual experience.
Example: Gary became a recel after his wife left him for losing his hair and gaining 100 pounds.
You say ‘Empathy isn’t zero-sum.’ But express the leftist treatment of men vs Trump’s victory as exactly zero-sum.
“Women are ascending; it’s a collective achievement. Men need to level up.”
Scott, be so fucking real right now.
“Women are ascending; it’s a collective achievement. Men need to level up.”
Scott, be so fucking real right now.
Sorry, but this is a weak take as far as I’m concerned. The challenges young men face might be “real,” but they are no more or less real than the challenges anyone faces. The difference is that men — young or not — can stew over those challenges from a position of strength. Men hold nearly three-quarters of all U.S. Congressional seats. They comprise nearly three-quarters of all state governors. They hold more than 90% of all S&P 500 CEO positions. They have controlled the White House for 237 years and counting. If these poor little incels can’t figure out how to relate to women on a human rather than possessive level, that’s on them. But spare me the tears about how rough they have it.
(Oh, and I’m a man, by the way. I was taught early on to suck it up when the world doesn’t do exactly what I need or want it to do).
Grow up, fellas.
Good points. And those in the positions you mentioned are from earlier generations that did not grow up in today’s very changed world. On the other hand, human nature doesn’t really change. I think you’re right, and I’m not too confident.
You are taking a very small subset of very privileged men who are overwhelmingly 65+ years old and extrapolating their experiences to those men who are of younger generations and different socioeconomic classes. It is like me pointing to the Supreme Court having 4 female associate justices (half of the associate justices) and declaring that there is no injustice for women in the law now.
Scott, read your stuff always(NYU BA/law alum), but you’re missing ( won’t say purposely avoiding) a big side of the story.
American women turned against white men- I know I lived it, and saw it happen, mid-aughts.
Meanwhile, the radical feminists( with their over-the-top venom against the Weinsteins, Epsteins, and Cosbys) destroyed any redeemable qualities in being called “masculine”.
Facts are facts- the radical feminization of our schools, workplaces, and dating etiquette caused irreparable damage.
Our GenZ male generation is devastated. And will not recover.
Give our boys a break- stop telling them to “man up”. Your boys will face the same challenges, except their dates will cozy up (that’s a verb they would never admit to) to them because ur net worth is est 150M? You need so much wealth to get your sons laid. Trust me, American women are mostly golddiggers except the fat ones. OF is proof of that.
What happened is a direct assault on the BS white patriarchy- M.Schmerconish, and you said it yourself- GenZ boys are paying for you two and other Boomer successes.
Until our American women “buy in” on our men, this divide will get bigger, not better.
I have a son, 3 daughters. Not concerned about them. Beauty begets power and money. My son will never marry an American, most manifest BPD or sociopathic behaviors.-
NO I’m not a misogynist – I was a serial American dater of losers and golddiggers until I met my foreign wife of 10 years, happy married,
Massive fan and have followed you religiously since the early days of Covid when you recognised the massive buying opportunity it created, however…
Your line “I used to wait tables and now I’m off to Davos on my own plane” is straight out of Antony Robbin’s “Awaken the giant within” where he flies over a building in his chopper and recognises it from his days working there as a janitor. At least follow it up with your usual self-deprecating line “I just re-read that last sentence and I sound like a w@nker”. Your Moneywise interview last year indicated you have a share in a plane, which is a smart choice but a certainly waters down the flex. Otherwise keep up the good work – your email is the first thing I read when I wake up in Sydney each Saturday!
If you examine this honestly, contemporary feminism is no longer merely corrective. It has become a dominant ideological framework embedded in schools, media, HR systems, and public policy. Like any dominant framework, it now overcorrects. In doing so, it increasingly frames normal male traits—competitiveness, hierarchy-seeking, physicality, bluntness, risk tolerance—as morally suspect rather than biologically grounded and socially functional, often collapsing them into the label “toxic masculinity.”
Men are not civilized by shaming these traits out of existence. They are civilized by channeling and disciplining them. Instead, the default social environment has been feminized: compliance is rewarded, emotional expressiveness and conflict avoidance are elevated, and what Gad Saad calls “suicidal empathy” is normalized. The predictable result is male disengagement, underperformance, and retreat into nihilistic subcultures.
The paradox is that many women still report wanting confident, assertive, capable men, while the culture systematically punishes boys for developing exactly those traits. Masculinity is privately desired but publicly condemned. That isn’t “progress”, it’s more like institutionalized confusion. Societies do not fail because masculinity exists. They fail when masculinity is delegitimized rather than integrated, leaving young men without a clear model for becoming strong, competent, prosocial adults willing to shoulder responsibility.
Good comment- 100% agree
Its not confusion, it’s deliberative contempt.
There are many articles about women- American women, not needing men anymore.
All you need to do is watch the Golden Globes and see all the white straight men sidelined for women and the radicals- the freak LGBTGQ BS-
We can’t compete. Women revel in being insensative even cruel.
It’s a pathological reaction condoned by our schools, workplaces, and overall culture in movies and silly books about women’s empowerment.
It’s gotten completely absurd.
There are no upsides for young men to pursue American women anymore. They will all lose in divorce court eventuallly except for rich dudes like Scott – he escaped unscathed.
Better for our young men to go play in another yard, not keep playing with themselves..
I did – found another compatible culture where men and women are mutually respected and can live together without al the American radical feminist hate.
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Long time fan but there’s been a little too much “saying the quiet part out loud” lately, i.e. “going to Davos on my private plane”; “it doesn’t matter what Joe Schmoe from Arkansas has to say” etc etc. I find it most troubling because IMO you are feeding the young men of the world the troubling trope that the key to happiness is just make a shit load of money. It’s almost like you are aiming to be Andrew Tate lite. Whatever happened to being a gentleman, being well read, making positive contributions to your community, etc? All of those things are highly attractive traits that don’t require a private plane, an invite to Davos, plastic surgery, multiple homes, etc. We know you’re rich and successful Scott. You don’t need to shout it from the mountain tops. In fact one might say it’s an incredibly unattractive trait. Are you missing the fact that part of what drove people far from liberal democrats and “experts” (as you also love to point out that you are) is exactly this type of obnoxious behavior? Just a thought. Will always be a fan because of your intelligent takes on the state of the world but I don’t need you to tell me why I should be a fan. It’s exhausting. We get it.
I mean he literally wrote “in the end, meaningful relationships are the only things that matter”; he isn’t arguing that going to Davos on a private plane is the goal; he’s arguing that building human relationships is the goal. Seems pretty clear if you read the article in its entirety.
I read the article in its entirety. Maybe it was just too much Prof G in one day? Shouldn’t read the newsletter and listen to the pod in one 24 hour period. That said, I think leading with “my private plane to Davos” is pretty strong. Tacking on “in the end, human relationships are all that matter” feels a bit like he’s writing it because he knows he’d sound like a total dick if he didn’t. Again, I’m a big fan. Have been following everything he’s been doing for the last decade + and have had the opportunity to meet him and speak at one of his conferences. In the last few years there’s been a serious uptick in “I’m really fucking rich and super smart, aren’t I special” sentiments that I just think is unnecessary. It just make him seem really insecure which is sad because I think he’s a great shining light for the country. We don’t need more people banging their chests screaming look at me! Look at me! This is a new phenomenon with him and a dangerous. IMO.
Great article. Here’s stuff I did in high school and beyond that boosted dating success. It’s not rocket science… but does take work. And this is all pre-social media. But likely still a good foundation.
I always worked, so had money and my own car. At age 19, moved out from my parents forever. Lived in large fun group houses with people my own age, so had my own pad. Roommates added to my social network.
Learning good manners, especially table manners is valuable. Being proactive was easy because I was verbal and liked stand-up comedy; just the way I’m wired, but everyone can benefit from learning to speak confidently, whether by studying comedians, taking a public speaking course or joining the debate society.
Be fit. I was no natural athlete; was a bookish nearsighted child. But had the good fortune to go to a high school where everyone was expected to play sports. Took up wrestling and soccer, played intermural volleyball and hit the weight room.
And finally take risks and make the ask. As the great philosopher Wayne Gretzky said, “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
“I worked hard and developed the callouses that nearly every successful person has: I learned how to mourn and move on, to endure rejection. “
Interesting article overall. I have three kids, all in that age group and contrary to your assertion, none of the three support Team Red as a result of being duped by “misogynistic, racist, and otherwise hateful messages”. They all vote and are repulsed by the DNC, their current “leaders”, rotten policies (to the extent they have any) and their divisive, bigoted and often vile rhetoric.
While you’re approaching comprehensiveness herein, you’re also oversimplifying things, and making assumptions. It’s not always a glaring, or more covert, personal deficit causing loneliness. I don’t identify as ‘vcel,’ but I do find it difficult to find what I’m looking for. I’m educated, eloquent, thoughtful, fit, polite, unique, conventional, responsible, left-of-center… I’m just a rare set of attributes. I’m not going to just pair off with anyone. Women (people, really—I believe it would be similar if I were gay or bi) just aren’t measuring up. My princess is in another social class.
Your thoughts strike a personal chord in me, and I’m much older than the adolescent target audience that you’re nominally addressing. “… learn to mourn and move on” is good, tough-love advice but at times very difficult to heed. I’m also intrigued by your repeated emphasis on the centrality of reproduction for men’s fulfillment as men. I know lots of men who are happy, productive (without the “re”), kind, and quite heterosexual. They just don’t want kids. It’s not everyone’s thing. Manhood shouldn’t be judged by such an archaic standard. The species won’t die off because a sizable minority of men (and women) don’t want children. It will die off because of stupidity.
Get a load of this guy. “I’m just a rare set of attributes” – no, you’re not; get over yourself. “My princess is in another social class.” LMFAO.
I do apologize if I’m making fun of a profoundly autistic fella, but I certainly did got a good laugh out of this. Thanks for that and good luck to you out there.
I cannot imagine how you could possibly so confidently make that assessment. Is the idea of being—for lack of a better phrase to reach for—too good for one’s echelon really that unfathomable to you? What’s your life experience like? I’ll take your ‘GL’ offering to heart. I’ll need it, as I’m having difficulty with Galloway’s “move the fuck on, bitch” policy in particular.
The fact is that men under 25 are on the back foot. Women are way ahead of them emotionally, professionally and biologically. Unless you’re naturally compatible with someone, it’s going to suck a lot of the time. Women have the evolutionary cards. Then, the tables turn for the next ten years. Mother Nature goes 9-11 on the female reproductive system and the clock is ticking. Shit got real, Stacy. Standards do not so much slip, but women are more open beyond their ideal, so if you’ve got an iota of shit together, yours is for the taking, guys. It’s a ten year window of opportunity to get a plan, (not a plot) for life, get in shape, have a laugh and build a future. Being a young guy is wasted on the young, but the sweet-spot is ahead. After the mid 30s, it’s grown up stuff, but enjoy the ten year trip.
Try being a single male over 60 looking for female companions. I have great career, own my own place, in decent shape, not a drunk. Have not been a date in four years.
Try joining a ski, cycling or tennis club with an older demographic. Older women are joiners.
To find a woman over 60, a man might have to be as good a friend as women friends. You can’t offer the history she would have with a long-time partner. She isn’t looking for a father to children or a provider. She isn’t as hormonally driven as a younger woman might be to find a sex partner. She has probably figured out her financial future. With all that, there’s nothing she may want specific to *male* companionship.
Wow, on your private jet to Davos and you profess to know immigration doesn’t do any harm . Wow, you belong with the pathetic we know best for you peons Davos crowd. If you don’t understand how illegal immigration destroyed the American middle class construction industry, let alone countless other non glamorous jobs, you should just stay in Davos land.
So, are you mad at the illegal immigrants or the people who hired and profited off the illegal immigrants?
A couple of things.
“Incel.” This abbreviation has to my mind gained an association with negative behavior. Please don’t label people as incel if they are just celibate. It improperly implies many things that are probably not true.
Your statement “the world is unfairly stacked against unattractive and awkward heterosexual men.” This is true, as far as it goes, but entirely misleading. The world is NOT fair, never has been, and never will be. If you’re not a winner in the genetic lottery, man or woman, you will not have the opportunities others do. It was clear to me many decades ago as it was to you. When Janice Ian released a song in 1975 (“At seventeen”) about it I cried, came to terms with it, and moved on beyond victim-hood. Blaming anyone for it is wrong and helps no one.
Keep up the good work. You are appreciated.
The person who coined the term “incel” was a woman. Women cannot actually get sex anytime they want, unless they are willing to take any warm body that crosses their path.
You do understand that “incel” is a portmanteau of “involuntary” and “celibate” right?
Nice essay. I think it’s actually a lot like the extreme beauty standards that media puts out there for women. Media, both social and non social, constantly shows examples of young men who achieve outrageous standards of excellence that I doubt even they have in real life. Those Chads could make any man feel inadequate, and present women with unrealistic standards of what they think it acceptable. Still, young men could find women if they just did the things you advise. Get out of the house. Borrow someone’s puppy and take it to the park. Borrow their baby and walk it around. The world is full of young women who want to meet a guy, but we’re enabling young men to be scared hermits.
Scot.
Glad to do what you do.
I use lots of your stuff and send it to a lot of people around me on almost a weekly basis. Plus, sit on some of your life stuff. I’m confused about the one graphic about the influencers and the connection to. Yes no believe it or not believe it… I couldn’t figure out how to read the graph. Any explanation there? Because it seems relevant.
I don’t like the term incel either. I came up with the term “defeated men,” as it does’t reference sexless ness directly, more that the “defeated” feeling many men and boys feel when they cannot find a girlfriend they would like. I feel it is less stigmatising. I’d be interested to understand how women feel about the term
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