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Love Persevering

March 5, 2021

“What is grief if not love persevering?” 

WandaVision

We put down our dog, Zoe, on Tuesday. We’re grieving. Three months ago our vet told us Zoe had growths on her liver, to take her home and enjoy our remaining time with her. Tuesday morning I woke to distressed calls — “Dad … DAD!” — coming from downstairs. Zoe had collapsed a few feet from her bed, had lost control of her bowels, and her breathing was labored.  

We shuffled her onto a beach towel and carried her to the back of our car. At the vet, we learned her organs were failing and that she was bleeding internally. The clinic had an outdoor annex, where we laid Zoe down on a wicker table and gathered around to say goodbye. Like every urbanized landmass in Florida, there was a gas station and a strip mall abutting the clinic. A car alarm was ringing. We had a remote control to notify the clinic when we were ready for them to administer pentobarbital, a seizure medication that would stop Zoe’s heart.   

Zoe’s death has rocked our household. The other dog won’t come out of his crate, the nanny won’t stop crying, my oldest doesn’t want to come out of his room, and (most disturbingly) his 10 year-old brother is doing what we ask him to. We’ve been a bit self-conscious about our grief as we recognize that 500,000+ U.S. households haven’t lost a pet, but a dad, aunt, or other loved one in the last 12 months. But our grief persists.

At first, I was fine playing the role of the stoic dad: “She lived a great life,” “This is what’s best for her,” etc. Then yesterday, on a livestream with Verizon and 60 of its communications agency partners, I started sobbing while describing the harm Facebook is doing to society. Despite all the macho and strength I aspire to project, there I was, 56 years old and a chocolate mess on a Zoom call with dozens of people who want confirmation that they should serve ads on Yahoo.  

It’s not the worst thing for someone in my line of work to have Verizon’s agency partners believe I am emotionally invested in holding social media platforms accountable. However, I’ve been crying every six hours since. I cried watching WandaVision last night, when eating oatmeal this morning, and again doing pull-ups.  

Failed Birth Control

Two decades ago, I moved to New York, where I applied tremendous skill and resources to building a life of arrested adolescence. The SoHo loft, a wintertime apartment in South Beach, a summer home in Watermill (complete with sand volleyball court, despite the fact that I … do not play volleyball), and a metallic blue Maserati. Jesus, what a douche. 

I embarked on a series of obsessive relationships — with people, business ventures, and material goods (the more scarce, the better). Inevitably, the rapture would fade, and my heart would sink. A weak heart breaks more easily. I wasn’t grieving over the lost person or the failed deal so much as I was grieving the lost possibility to escape to a better life — a life of meaning, vs. the IMAX version of The Narcissist’s Playbook. 

Then I met someone nicer, more impressive, and much more attractive than me — who was also kind. However, she wanted children. I told her I was not interested in getting married again. She called my bluff with a José Aldo roundhouse: “We don’t need to get married to have a kid.”  

Looking for an alternative means of birth control, I drove to Pennsylvania to pick up an 11 week-old Vizsla. The breeders were some of the most down to earth, normal dog breeders I had ever encountered … and they were exceptionally strange. But that’s another post. We named our puppy Zoe and talk of a baby subsided. However, similar to most extemporaneous methods of male birth control, my tactic was not effective, and 38 weeks later my oldest son came rotating out of my girlfriend.  

Zoe soon became my oldest son’s dog. He had a connection with her only matched by the contempt he has for his younger brother. Zoe forged the connection by sitting in front of his crib each morning; they stared at each other through the wood slats while my son spoke a language deployed across species. They would be transfixed like this for 20-30 minutes (no joke). It was as if they were planning a jailbreak.

And why I think I’ve been crying.

I will miss Zoe, as she was a meaningful part of our family’s life. But the truth is, once we had boys, most of that emotion transferred to the kids. Plus, I’m not one of those guys who finds peace away from the family in the company of dogs. So yes, I am grieving Zoe, but as with happiness, real grief is internal.

Zoe’s death has rocked me because it is a marker. A reminder that time is the most relentless force in the universe: that no matter what we do, its thievery marches on. For the rest of my life, I’ll have sons. But I no longer have the baby who sat on a blanket with us in the backyard, the toddler who had an alliance with his dog to disappear his vegetables, or the eight year-old who rang out a particular laugh only the dog could inspire. Zoe’s death is a loss on several levels.

 

Love Persevering

Dogs are not allowed on the couch in our household. Ever. The thing is, both dogs and humans are mammals, and are happiest when surrounded by (read: when touching) others. So, Zoe and I had an agreement: After everyone was asleep, she could come on the couch, rest her head on me, and dream. It was a pact of secrecy, and not once in her 14 years did she betray this trust — Vizslas are rugged hunting dogs, and also discrete. She would lie on me, dream and, according to her paws, run for miles. Many of these posts have been written with Zoe’s head resting on my stomach as she dreamt of running through a Hungarian forest.

All Zoe wanted was affection — which is to say, love. Lying on a wicker table, next to a gas station, death came for Zoe. When her heart stopped, our other dog was licking Zoe’s ears, and our entire family had hands on her. Our wonderful dog left this earth with everything she had ever wanted. And we are grieving because our love perseveres.

Life is so rich,

523 comments

  1. Ryan says:

    I wasn’t expecting this. I’m sitting at work crying now. Great post.

  2. Jena Seawood says:

    This is just the right thing to end the year! Thank you so much for this chapter! /o/

    https://batteyracing.tumblr.com/post/662399809209171968/hacks-for-cleaning-and-organizing-your-car

  3. Christopher Hook says:

    So sorry for your loss. Mine was over 2 months ago and I still struggle with the grief. Thank you for sharing.

  4. Anthony says:

    Might be late to the ‘party’, but this incredible post needs a nod from anyone that has the ability to feel. Incredibly moved and we all thank you for sharing.

  5. Felix says:

    I am so sorry, Scott. I lost my beagle, a friend of mine since childhood who took care of my father after I went to college and moved to New York, on Tuesday, March 2nd, too. I remember the powerlessness, the night before and moments prior, when I fought bargaining putting off the decision by one more day, one more hour, five more minutes. I have done decently for myself, considering where I started, how badly I messed up along the way and my age. And boy did I try making the cancer go away with Bay Area-sized veterinary bills. But I was powerless, and that hurt, and seeing my family come together, all of us home, for the first time in years, only to get crushed by torrents of tears hurt, and still hurts. Thank you for the image of the mourning as a marker. It’s a better story than I’ve been catching me telling myself. And it brings the good memories to the forefront.

  6. N Reib says:

    Thank you for such a beautiful post

  7. George Paulino says:

    Just recently discovered this blog, I’ve always been a fan of Scott’s “no nonsense” take on business and his youtube videos but to see him express himself so completely here is inspiring.

  8. Sherry Lee says:

    I read this during lunch break at work. Big mistake – red eyes, runny nose, streaking mascara, wet sandwiches, and a client meeting in 15 minutes. Great dialog on Bill Maher btw.

  9. Enid Koffler says:

    thank you for the beautiful essay.i have lost a husband and 3 dogs over the last 27years. needless to say i cried so many tears reading this, but i thank you for it. my life is empty without a new pup. i think about it every day and the loss of my beloved ozzie maybe you are moving me to find a new buddy and find joy once again. thank you.

  10. Ky E S Mason says:

    Thank you. I understand. Most, it fills my heart to know all who do. ❣️🐕 🙏🏻

  11. Editor says:

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  12. Charles Lueders says:

    The year has been a little tough, but to loose the family pet at this time is always more painful. We lost our pet a few weeks ago and yes we mourned. It’s ok to mourn a pet. It’s a sign of love of life and good nature. Celebrate the gift your family received from Zoe. /:-)

  13. Ralph Ibarra says:

    The Last Battle If it should be that I grow frail and weak And pain should keep me from my sleep, Then will you do what must be done, For this — the last battle — can’t be won. You will be sad I understand, But don’t let grief then stay your hand, For on this day, more than the rest, Your love and friendship must stand the test. We have had so many happy years, You wouldn’t want me to suffer so. When the time comes, please, let me go. Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend, Only, stay with me till the end And hold me firm and speak to me Until my eyes no longer see. I know in time you will agree It is a kindness you do to me. Although my tail its last has waved, From pain and suffering I have been saved. Don’t grieve that it must be you Who has to decide this thing to do; We’ve been so close — we two — these years, Don’t let your heart hold any tears. — Unknown

  14. Lee says:

    I’m an old woman, and every now and again I realize how short our lives are, including those of our dogs. All my life there have been dogs and I’ve said goodbye to so many. You had me in tears. Thank you.

  15. DARLA EAVES says:

    Scott…I too saw, and heard you also on Bill Maher the other night. You made my heart race with words! Please run for President.💓

  16. Ronny B says:

    You Sir Are my newest idol, love your words and what I’m hearing on all aspects of your writing. As, I writing here in TN, my dog Stella is floating around the cabin, waiting for me to throw her ball. What else to say ? We end in joy.

  17. Mike Walter says:

    Thank you for this. I have a 13 year old Irish Water Spaniel who beat cancer 5 years ago (he lost a leg in the battle but he won the war). He’s slowed down a lot this past year but he’s still a constant companion and I dread the day we have to say goodbye. This blog is a reminder why.

  18. Doug says:

    PVR’ed Bill Maher and my Cardio workout go hand and hand. Today’s workout flew by : I even clapped! Today was the first I’ve come across you – actually not true: My wife came to bed 45:00 late last night – she was totally mesmerized by your comments (you marketing people 😉) This is the first blog I’ve read and thank you for sharing your story about your family member Zoe. We just recently lost our 23 year old cat, Fritz. Pets have a special place in our hearts.

  19. Dana says:

    So sorry to hear about Zoe. This past spring our dog Brussels was diagnosed with cancer and passed in September. In the midst of a pandemic this was another awful thing to deal with. The only positive was that since we were all housebound we were able to spend so much time with him in what were his last months. I received a condolence card that although makes me tear up each time I read it, has given me some solace. Hope it does the same for you: “Grieve not nor speak of me with tears , but laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you…I loved you so – ‘‘twas Heaven here with you”. Isla Paschal Richardson

  20. Guy says:

    Scott, I wept. It made me remember that awfull day in april last year. His name was Zeno, 13 years old. Although they are ‘only’ animals the loss and emptiness they leave behind once they’re no longer amongst us is awkward and confronting. It was the first time I had to put down a dog. Never again ! It felt like betrayal although medically it was the only solution. The grieve is still there i noticed when i see pictures of Zeno on my computer or phone. I enjoy reading your weeklies on your website. Greetings from Belgium.

  21. Sue Campbell says:

    I am sorry for your loss. My family lost two fathers within a month of each other at the beginning of covid one actually helped along by covid, so this whole year had been a grieving process. It has been tremendously hard to bare the lack of humanity that the previous administration had for all the death that we had to endure. Now Biden is helping us grieve a bit but we are still in shock from the trauma. Thank you for posting about how you are processing the loss of your vishla. We all need to let it out. We have a dog for the first time who is older but also bestie to an adorable neoghbohood vishla who comes to our house often. She is a part of the family and the family is more whole because of it. I hope your family can find some peace with this transition. Take Care. Sue

  22. Jeanne Papa says:

    I, too, “found” you last night on Bill Maher and want to read every word you’ve written and hear every word you’ve recorded. You’re the light at the end of this long, bleak pandemic tunnel!

  23. Rachel says:

    Just discovered you on Bill Maher, too. I found your knowledge, observations and comments fascinating yet intense. Now a moving article about the loss of a furry family member and its effects. I “lost” my husband of 50 yr just 10 months ago. We buried many furry friends together over the years. Your comment about Zoe’s death being ” a marker. A reminder that time is the most relentless force in the universe: that no matter what we do, its thievery marches on. ” describes its inevitably perfectly. Then the memories and our gratitude for them rise up within allowing us to persevere and learn ” Love Never Ends”. Over and over again. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences.

  24. Marty Warner says:

    Well, thanks for igniting my brain with your dialog on Bill Maher tonight, I have to watch it again because I was so blown away I might have missed something. And then came to this site to make sure you are real, and then got emotional because of your loss of Zoe. You certainly are real. We lost our dog five years ago and just can’t get another yet. I’ll be ordering your books at my local bookstore.

  25. Paula says:

    Saw you tonight on Bill Maher. I’m so excited by your ideas and conclusions you’ve drawn about social media and lack of accountability. I’m gonna be watching you from now on. Thanks!

  26. Shay'ne says:

    Tonight I discovered you on Bill Maher. It only took minutes of listening to you and I was mesmerized! I’m your newest fan and planning to spread the news. You’re brilliant, fascinating and I cant wait to read your books and posts. My husband is hooked as well. We wish you and your family the very best and may you have a long healthy Life to continue sharing your wisdom. And we loved the story about Zoe. Our dear departed Zoey was a wonderful black Lab – we loved her so much and she had a great Life! Thank you for coming on Bill Maher!!!!

    • RickB says:

      Same here. Big fan of a guy Id never heard of until 90 minutes ago. I loved everything Scott said tonight, then I find this wonderful article about what losing the family dog meant to him. Impressive.

    • Jess says:

      @RickB Likewise.

  27. CARMEN says:

    Scott, there are tears in my coffee. Run on Zoe. Much love.

  28. Maria says:

    Oh my godddddd. I am pregnant & have a 1 year old pup, and I’m literally dying over here!!!! This is the most beautiful tribute I’ve ever read. Thank you for sharing your love with the world.

  29. Snigdha Sharma says:

    Beautifully penned and from the heart. Condolences to you and family…RIP Zoey.

  30. Mark Snyder says:

    How could you not read this and cry…Geez Glad your grieving. Thanks for sharing. Gods best to you and the fam!

  31. RJM says:

    Hi Scott, condolences to you and your family. We have also experienced such a loss, twice. I hope your piece brought you some comfort. You are one of your family grieving. I recommend all reading Rescuing Spirt. It will help will the grieving and healing.

  32. John H says:

    Great post Scotty!!

  33. Gary says:

    Beautiful, thoughtful, transparent, growth-inspiring…and a poignant reminder of our similar loss a few years ago. Thank you for sharing.

  34. André Echenique says:

    Our family knows this day is coming soon, which breaks my heart. Your post is touching in a very personal and relatable way to our family, and I’m sure many others. Thank you for sharing @profgalloway. Opening windows like this to see into your life allows you to let yor sadness out and healing in.

  35. Steve Boggs says:

    We lost our CoCo on January 18th; she too was 14 years old. It’s been the hardest 7 weeks of my life. In reading this post, I realized it is the passing of the years and all the wonderful memories which I am also morning. Wonderful post, thank you.

  36. Alfredo says:

    So sorry…

  37. Tom says:

    Have been through the trauma of watching both parents die, as well as a number of pets. The aftermath is a deep and desolate place. Yet with time, it can also make us better people, impelling us to put time and resources into relationships. In other words, death is a part of wisdom, even if it feels like hell.

  38. John G says:

    Thanks for sharing your story. For the most part, I am able to put out of my thoughts the fact that one day our family dog will no longer be with us. Your story has brought that eventuality into sharper focus, and that is a good thing as it changes my behavior. I hope I handle things as well as you have when the day comes

  39. Linda S. says:

    Scott – Found the tissue box and read your column again. What a tribute to all of our beloved animals – peace to your family and Ms. Zoe – yes, we must remember that love perseveres.

  40. Amy Marr says:

    Scott, I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful tribute. 🐾💕

  41. Chae says:

    Ok, beautiful post, even the homage to Wandavision. Crap wasn’t that the sweetest line of the episode? I hope future generations understand how some pop culture references are transcendant. And why in this time of pandemic we can on an emotional level compare our real world loss to a comic book superhero love story between a woman and a nonhuman humanoid. But it works. I’m crying as I type this. fuck.

  42. Maureen Kelly says:

    Beautiful and heartbreaking. I have 2 dogs and my oldest will be 13 in April. I treasure every day. I hope you and your family find comfort in her wonderful memories.

  43. Juan says:

    Beautiful post!

  44. Deborah Edwards says:

    The love of a dog transforms you. They literally leave footprints on your heart. I’m sorry for your loss. We also have footprints.

  45. Reinhard Bimashofer says:

    It’s always meaningful and inspiring what you publish. Thank’s a lot for sharing more than your thinking…for sharing deep emotions!

  46. Sharon says:

    At 68 I have lost many dogs. Along with my son who is now grown. I’ve never understood why a person doesn’t have a dog. I’m sorry you lost your Zoe. Thank you for sharing your soul. ☮️

  47. Lynn says:

    Pets, well not really pets, rather heartbeats of families, are very very hard to lose but they remain with you forever.

  48. Monica Quinn says:

    This was so poignant and expressed the love of your dog so memorably. I lost my Darling Duke, a beautiful Bassett Hound a month ago. I compared every Basset I ever saw, or saw pictures of, to him, and not one came even close to his face, colouring or intelligent eyes. We adored each other and we knew it. I miss stroking his soft fur and catching his eye. I have him as my wallpaper on my phone on the basis that the more often I see him, the less will became the punch to my whole being every time I look at him. So far it hasn’t worked. I still love him so much. Every day I have to either swallow hard or just let the tears flow. They are flowing now. Thankyou for your article.

  49. YA says:

    Thank you for sharing this tremendously written eulogy for Zoe. Sorry for your loss.

  50. Tobias Tuleby says:

    ❤️ sorry for your loss, beautifully expressed!

  51. Bruno HANQUIER says:

    And there you go, you made me cry… again…

  52. Yc says:

    So sorry for your loss. This lovely tribute will make it a little bit easier when the day comes to grieve the loss of our dog.

  53. Vincent Sgroi says:

    What a wonderful eulogy to a member of your family. Pets, especially cats and dogs, truly do become part of your family. They ask for two things love and care. That’s it! In return the give you unconditional love. As a person who has gone down that heart wrenching road you recently traveled, my most sincere condolences to you and your family.

  54. Bill Buchanan says:

    Lovely. Have been there several times with our dogs. Dogs chase cars and drink from toilets. They are poor decision makers, but are the embodiment of pure love. What could be better?

  55. Julie Williams says:

    Beautifully expressed and universally understood. Thank you for reminding us all of the rapid passing of time and that all love is precious, whether human or animal.

  56. Mari says:

    A beautifully written tribute – damn you for making me cry! My deepest condolences to you and your family, especially your son who must be missing his Zoe so much.

  57. Rujan Ahmed says:

    Her love will always live on through your family and yourself, a permanent mark on your hearts. Bye Zoe, we will see you later 🙂

  58. Janet says:

    I have to pull my 16 years dog down 2year ago I still cry for her very day and nite .I miss her so much.

    • Tom says:

      I hope you can find your way to adopt another dog. It will never replace your old friend, but you can give another dog a wonderful life and make yours better at the same time.

  59. Katie says:

    I can totally resonate with this. I had to put my beloved Boxer Molly down on 4 Jan and I am still heart broken. So many memories. The house is deathly silent. I feel guilty as I effectively signed her life away. She had a brain tumour so it was the kindest thing to do, but I am bereft. Nothing will being my baby back and I am lost. I love her sooooo much. Goodnight baby, sleep well and I’ll see you one day. Xxxxxxxxxx

  60. Patrick A Fekula says:

    Sorry for your loss. Wonderful, feeling message. Thank you for sharing…

  61. Bucky says:

    Sorry for your loss. We lost our “Zoe” on thanksgiving day this past year- ironic in it’s own regard. Beautiful words, and Brene Brown would be proud of you too.

  62. Gloria Loree says:

    Life IS so rich. thank you for spreading the love.

  63. Paul McCallum says:

    Such a heartbreaking read. My thoughts are with you and all of the family.

  64. Ann L. Lundberg says:

    I’m crying with you Scott because our dog skipper is your dog Zoe and I feel all those same things as he gets old and our children become young adults. Time passes and yes, life is so rich.

  65. Aa Awa says:

    RIP Zoe..

  66. Thabo says:

    Professor Scott, I am so sorry for your loss. I am literally in tears right now. Thank you for reminding us of the importance of spending time with the ones that truly matter, while we still can.

  67. Suze says:

    And now *I’m* crying… beautifully written.

  68. John says:

    Wonderful tribute to Zoe.

  69. Linda Miwa says:

    Coming up on the one year anniversary of putting down our angel, a Sheltie, also from cancer. Yes, at 14 she had lived a long life but it is never easy saying goodbye to our loyal, loving companions. I am in tears. Thank you for sharing.

  70. Matt says:

    I lost my dog in January and I can relate completely to your sense of loss. For me it’s not just the loss of the dog, but the roll he played in the lives of my friends and I, particularly the roll he had in bringing and keeping us together. Beautiful words as always, Scott.

  71. Sue Nelson says:

    And a stranger in Northern Wisconsin is crying tears full of honest heartbreak and connection with and for you. Our dogs are living, breathing love. Thank you for growing our humanity with your words.

  72. Beth Briggs says:

    Thank you for this Scott. Really beautiful

  73. Vangelis Sismanoglou says:

    Inspiring, touching, amazing emotional writing for a finance professor, what a vigorous display of our inner shelves, thank you mr Galloway.

  74. Donna Morano says:

    Our girl Bo has been our anchor during this difficult year. No doubt. And like your boys, her connection to our kids has been something to be very grateful for. I am so very sorry for your beautiful girl’s loss…

  75. Mary says:

    Beautiful. Dogs are everything humans should aspire to be.

  76. Shelley Potratz says:

    I have a 15yr old golden named… Zoe. It’s been a really tough winter watching her decline and waiting for the inevitable. Thanks for this lovely column. So sorry for your loss.

  77. Judy Jensen says:

    What a Sunday morning. I was reading the Smerconish newsletter and found your post. Immediately, I relived having to put my Ted (a big eight-year-old Maine Coon boy) to sleep after a clot traveled down his spine and paralyzed him. At 3 a.m. during the beginning days of the Covid pandemic, I had to say good-bye to my best friend–my cat dog who loved his stroller, walking on a leash, going for car rides, and climbing trees as far as the leash would allow. I, too, heard an unimaginable cry when Teddy could no longer walk. He dragged himself into his pet carrier when I was ready to head to the emergency vet hospital. They took him inside and I had to sit in the car alone filling out “paperwork” on my phone in the dark, empty parking lot discussing with the vet about putting him to sleep. When I was able to go into an exam room, I couldn’t console him (even though they had him on morphine.) I’m a caretaker for my disabled husband who no longer leaves the house, so Ted represented much more than a pet. He became my best friend, the big doofus cat who kept me company and made me laugh. After 11 months, I thought the worst of the crying was over. Apparently not, though. I felt yours and your family’s pain and understand the depth at which we love our furry friends. Rest in peace, Zoe.

  78. Phairis Sajan says:

    Big hug from one mammal to another. Crying here in Canada for your loss there in Florida. No matter where we are we love our dogs. They are part of the magic that is our life. Oh shit, that was a little flowery. Anyway.. big hug to you and your family Scott and a cheers to Zoe for living her best life.

  79. Natalie Wright says:

    My family just faced the same situation, having to put a very sick dg down. Wally is still with them and me (grandma) in so many ways, memories abound, photos are treasured and our dog is not suffering…. We grieve, laugh and go on.

  80. Valerie Lim says:

    Dear Scott, I cried for hours when Clifford, my golden retriever died. It’s 5 years and I still think of him. I’m sorry for your loss. Valerie

  81. Thomas says:

    I’ve had to put my dogs to sleep and I feel for you but you should have prepared your children for this the minute after Zoe was not expected to live much longer.

    • Jeff says:

      Don’t be so cold. This guy didn’t say his kids weren’t aware of what was happening. Just sad about it. Damn! ……some people just can’t refrain from judging people. Judge yourself!!! That should keep YOU busy the rest of your life.

  82. Catherine Ferrante says:

    So So sorry for your loss.

  83. David Miller says:

    We also have a vizsla and we also had to put our (other) dog down recently (Jan-20, inauguration day – we’ll never forget that day). Vizsla’s aren’t dogs, they are people masquerading as dogs. I don’t know what my wife is going to do when we lose Sadie.

  84. Martha Benoit says:

    I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Zoe. You lost a special family member. It is only right that your and your family are in mourning. It will be easier, but you will always keep her in your heart. It is apparent that you and your family gave Zoe a wonderful life. You need to find the poem, “The Rainbow Bridge.”

  85. Dan Theman says:

    Scott, so sorry for your loss. I’ve read your books and your posts, and this was one of the best. I say this in a most sincere way, since few others are willing to wear their heart on their sleeve and show that they can be vulnerable. And you had me cracking up at calling yourself a “douche.” I’m your age and I’ve been there as well. It’s not until later in life that most people realize what’s important and what’s insignificant. Money means nothing without friends and loved ones. And losing either of those is like having a part of you torn to shreds.

  86. Barry Winograd says:

    Wanda loved you too. Robinson Jeffers, 1941 ———————– The House Dog’s Grave ( Haig , an English bulldog ) I’ve changed my ways a little : I cannot now Run with you in the evenings along the shore, Except in a kind of dream : and you, if you dream a moment, You see me there. So leave awhile the paw-marks on the front door Where I used to scratch to go out or in, And you’d soon open; leave on the kitchen floor The marks of my drinking-pan. I cannot lie by your fire as I used to do On the warm stone, Nor at the foot of your bed; no, all the night through I lie alone. But your kind thought has laid me less than six feet Outside your window where firelight so often plays, And where you sit to read — and I fear often grieving for me — Every night your lamplight lies on my place. You,man and woman, live so long, it is hard To think of you ever dying A little dog would get tired, living so long. I hope then when you are lying Under the ground like me your lives will appear As good and joyful as mine. No, dear, that’s too much hope : you are not so well cared for As I have been. And never have know the passionate undivided Fidelities that I knew. Your minds are perhaps too active, too many-sided…. But to me you were true. You were never masters, but friends. I was your friend. I loved you well, and was loved. Deep love endures To the end and far past the end. If this is my end, I am not lonely, I am not afraid, I am still yours. Robinson Jeffers. 1941.

  87. Jane B says:

    This is so beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. All of you.

  88. Margaret Labonte says:

    I lost my chuhala margarita and still think of her. Margaret

  89. Nickie says:

    Your post captures the heartbreak of putting down a beloved pet, especially one that your children have grown up with. This is something I’ve had to go through twice, and it is so very hard. Sitting here with tears in my eyes at my desk at work… thank you for your beautiful writing.

  90. cindy j sipes says:

    I share your grief, it’s been a year since we had to have Chaos, a wonderful Vizsla, put to sleep. He had to be picked up to be taken outside to pee & poop and as I am a 60 yo woman, it was so difficult with him still a 50# dog, but I was glad to do it just so I could continue to have that lovely dog. And then it dawned on me that I was being selfish and so we went to the vet. He was alive one minute, then dead in my arms the next minute. Oh how I miss him.

  91. Jason Gotlib says:

    I have to respond to this touching story about the passing of Dr. Galloway’s beloved Vizsla sent to me by my sister Michele. Our Vizsla Hasta (yes, Hasta La Vizsla) passed on December 20, 2018 at the age of 14 years and 6 months. To complement Dr. Galloway’s story, I share my obituary of Hasta here to express our similar Love, now Persevering for over 2 years: Hasta Gotlib Obituary June 5, 2004 – December 20, 2018 After 14 years, 6 months, and 2 weeks of counter-surfing and absconding with loafs of bread, our Vizsla Hasta passed away on Thursday, December 20th, 2018. When he slipped away from the earthly bonds of 856 Cordilleras to his Hungarian Pointer paradise, Lenn and Jason Gotlib were at his side, as Hasta was forever by their side with unrelenting love, loyalty, and friendship. Our love had many aliases: Hasta La Vizsla, King Hasta, Hastalicious, Hasta Pasta Pants, Sir Lumps-a-Lot, Sir Poops-a-Lot, Bastard, Sweet Cakes, Boyfriend, King Hasta, and Purple Collar Boy, to distinguish him from his newborn brothers and sisters. He was born on June 5, 2004 to the Sire CH Valley Hunter’s Enzo, JH and Dam Bowcot Poppyhills M. Butterfly at the Breeder Poppyhills Vizslak in Royal Oaks, California. He was the first born, who breached the new world by natural delivery, followed by 8 litter-mates, who needed a Caesarian to follow his lead. Hasta spent his first 2 years of life at Stanford West where Lenn carried the young Hasta up and down three flights of stairs and across Sand Hill Road for his daily exercise. He grew quickly and encouraged our transition to a home with a large backyard. Lenn and Jason moved to San Carlos in 2006 where he ran circles with blinding speed around humans and dogs alike. Off-leash, Hasta released a neurotic energy that bended space-time at his favorite hangouts like Barron Park and Pulgas Ridge. These neuroses were borne of open doors and the wind—and led him to seek asylum in hidden spaces such as under our bed or in the bathtub. Carole Lawrence and Rebecca Westergren were his guardian caretakers and second family when Lenn and Jason had to work or travel. How comforting to know that Hasta always had their love and companionship when we could not be present. While they provided him with discipline and socialization, we wittingly spoiled him with human food, transforming him into a barky food thief who drooled for cinnamon-sugar bagels with peanut butter and ice café mochas. His indulgences of human food made him very happy and did not appear to dent his longevity. Hasta was a willing partner in Jason’s engagement proposal to Lenn. In 2005, among the labyrinthine bushes in front of Stanford’s CCSR building, we had Hasta retrieve balls and dig up treats from the dirt. At one point, Jason showed Lenn what Hasta had uncovered; he unfurled his clenched hand and admixed with the soil was an engagement ring that led to their wedding at the Ritz Carlton Half Moon Bay two years later. Vizslas are velcro dogs—however Hasta may have carried extra copies of that gene. He was not content to lie next to us—he tried to lie on, and morph into us —to create some fantastical Hasta-Lenn-Jason triad which we suppose was intended to walk the earth with two feet, wag its tail, and treat leukemia patients. Hasta loved beaches—Miramar and Carmel, but was disappointed that the holes he dug never reached China. With pointing and pursuit baked into his Hungarian DNA, he chased jack-rabbits at Bair and Bird Islands and pursued squirrels at home, but never caught them. When they turned around to challenge Hasta, his pretentious hunter façade fell apart, and he retreated with the equivalent of canine egg on his face. The younger Hasta strutted along our 2-mile San Carlos circuit and everyone who saw him thought he was gorgeous. You could not take your eyes off of him. He was Cindy Crawford and the rest of us were ogling pubescent boys. At home, he barked us to order: get out of bed, get his breakfast ready, and get into the shower. He was a Viszla with the temperament of an Australian Shepherd. At dawn and twilight, we lived by his time clock and routine. We worked for him, but would give anything to work another day for our lovely boss. Hasta was notorious for turning 5-mile routes into 20-mile zig-zag courses with nose to ground, sniffing the history of all dogs who had walked the earth. However, some two years ago, when Lenn and Jason took a 5-mile walk up the steep part of Brittan Avenue, Hasta had to stop to rest for the first time. This was a turning point. Since then, Hasta has had to settle for walks with more measured inclines and duration. Like all Vizslas, time turned his silky cinnamon face silvery-white, and his body became riddled with innumerable lipomas. However, his appetite and affection remained sturdy to the very end. Hasta leaves behind a legion of people and dogs who loved him and whose hearts break for him. Hasta, we will think about you often. When it’s our time to leave Cordilleras, we will greet you with a Greenie in hand and four treats. He’ll know it’s us. Rest in peace dear Hasta. You’re a legend.

  92. Charlotte Castillo says:

    Loss is loss…is loss….is loss. No guilt. So sorry for your loss and tha k you for sharing the beautiful piece.

  93. Annie Reyes says:

    I am not crying, you are crying 😢 i absolutely share every emotion and sentiment being a doggy mom. Thank you for sharing ❤️🐶🌈

  94. Mark says:

    Got me all teary eyed on a Saturday morning. Sorry for your and your family’s loss.

  95. Heather says:

    How ever you and your writing came into my life! Eyes have tears as you again nail it. A trusted voice helping me to understand my reaction to the world that is growing and not in a good way. Facebook, cell phones and iPods. As l watched, experienced and left. Wrong! Just so wrong, pid piper and very few see, the children dancing away never to be seen again.

  96. Susan says:

    The most pain I have ever felt has been losing each and every one of my beloved dogs❤💔

  97. Elizabeth R. says:

    So beautiful. How lucky you were to have the that time with Zoe. Sorry for your loss.

  98. Teresa says:

    I heart grieves for you and your family. We had a Boston Terrier for nearly fourteen years. We lost her to a brain tumor in June. My heart still feels shattered. She had been my constant companion since I had been diagnosed with cancer. I went into remission, Praise God, then my mom went on Hospice. Through the loss of both my parents, several friends, and relatives, my little fur-baby, was right there. Now she’s gone, and I feel lost. I will miss her always. Still looking for a new fur-baby.

  99. Becky L. says:

    I lost my Tschuss in November. It crushed me. He was my heart.

  100. Maureen J Owens says:

    My heart breaks for you. I am still grieving my Gracie ‘s passing of almost 2 years.I do have a new to me dog… I wish you and your family peace. All dogs go to heaven. ❣🐕🌈

  101. John Gowing says:

    We love our dog too, so sorry for your loss. John & Miraim AU

  102. Marion and Terry Nechuta says:

    You made me cry. It felt good. We had to put our doge down just before Covid last year.

  103. Tasha Ellis says:

    I have three dogs and one day I will have none..That fact alone drives me to tears

  104. Jennifer Tyacke says:

    Scott, Thank you. Your story and the words to tell it have told all, that Zoe was so much more to your family. I am sorry for the loss your family is dealing with. My tears are still falling like furious waterfalls daily. I know exactly the kind of pain that grabs you. Without any respect for you or others around you….i bolted out of the grocery store leaving a full cart after a little girl came up and asked me “where is your cute little dog?” Jasmine, my hearbeat, my ride or die, my best friend slipped away from me 1/5/2021. I have lost family and good friends. I have wondered just what was the driving force behind these ambushes? As the pain and tears are so much more intense than I’ve ever had. I still, 2 months later cry at least once a day. The overwhelming pain in my chest feels like i might burst, to really shatter into those millions of pieces that I have been looking for. I am trying to put myself back together again and i will, in time, make it through a day without tears, and then two without tears. Jasmine was almost 14, her birthday is April 11th, a 7.5 pound all Black/Blue Pomeranian with a huge personality. She was the sweetest girl. Yes, i will miss Jasmine forever. She was the most amazing little dog. Fly high my sweet girl.

  105. Melanie says:

    As a veterinarian, you would think I would be immune to tears from reading this, but I’m not. I also transitioned my own dog recently. I remain bereft.

  106. Colette Chestnut says:

    Tough to comment through the tears. one of the most beautiful pieces written about loss. Thank you.

  107. Jill says:

    Thank you for this, Scott. My beloved dog–my best friend–died on Tuesday in a similar fashion, and this post makes me feel less alone.

  108. Teodora says:

    So beautiful Scott – I kept it together until your last paragraph😢 As I was reading your post, my brain was playing “Dust in the Wind” from somewhere deep in the recesses of my mind. And it got louder as I read this: “time is the most relentless force in the universe: that no matter what we do, its thievery marches on.” So sorry for your family’s loss😔

  109. Louis A Acevedo, Esq says:

    it’s always heartbreaking to lose a friend that is always there through for you no matter your emotional state. sorry for your loss

  110. Bridget Ramsey says:

    Scott, This was a beautiful tribute to a faithful companion. thank you for sharing the family photos. When our Tonkinese cat we’d transported around the world, from Manila, to Okinawa, to New Orleans, to Norfolk, to D.C.had to be released from life, I mourned for a very very long time. In this time of Covid-sadness, let us look to all the gifts of life to lift us up. Bridget

  111. Sue says:

    Thank you for sharing….beautiful story so sorry for your family’s loss. I losted my Snowflake almost 5 years ago and not a day goes buy that I don’t think of her.

  112. Don Kitson says:

    Can see your dog helped make and protect your family. From experience, the grief of losing them is only outdone by the fortune of having had them.

  113. Brent Dane says:

    You are coming to earth. I am 72 and still figuring it out. Thanks

  114. Jessica Koenigsberg-Wurpel says:

    Thank you for putting this gut wrenching experience so well. We jùst lost our sweet Sadie girl, two weeks ago today. Unexpectedly and rapidly. Every single day my husband and eye cry at some point, as we try to navigate life without our loyal, sweet, furry Sadie who enriched our lives in so many different ways. You made me feel less alone in my grief.

  115. Ratna says:

    Very relatable. You put words to what many of us have experienced with our pets passing. Beautifully written.

  116. Gustavo says:

    Thanks for sharing

  117. susan inoue says:

    Thank you for putting into words how I’ve been feeling for the 2 Weeks since we put Luna to sleep ( funny that term , so not really asleep or I’d gladly wake her up!) . She was a 14.5 year old Dachshund …. a spunky , hunter and free spirit to the end ….She ruled these 40 acres with her brother ( he died 4 years ago). They were a part of the weave of our family and life…. and they didn’t live near long enough. Grief is real. Missing them is real . Heavy heart for a awhile . We had adopted a rescue Standard poodle from Texas a year before ( crossover insurance) . Bodhi sleeps in her bed everyday . He preforms origami to his body to fit. He is soaking in to himself the remnants of her energy . She’d like that.

  118. milton says:

    thank you for sharing professor … bless up to zoe and the family

  119. Rich S. says:

    Really powerful. We put our dog down this past summer. So many tears. I am tearing up as I type this. Crazy the effect these little guys have on us. Thanks for sharing.

  120. Prince Rumi says:

    Scott, I, too, lost a dog named Zoe. It was hard. The first time anyone had seen my tears. I had to find the courage to be vulnerable. It helped. 🤘🤍🦋😔

  121. Jeff Ruppert says:

    Insightful. Moving. Powerful. Thank you for sharing.

  122. Rich says:

    Powerful……..profound!

  123. C says:

    You made me cry Prof G. I did not see you as humble before. Thank you for sharing. And showing to us that you are just as human as us. This post, as many others is worth sharing. And yes Facebook should die and noone will miss it.

  124. Maurice Leacock says:

    That grief is just below the surface for many of us, for many reasons. Thank you for sharing yours.

  125. Karene says:

    Your mother raised you well.

  126. Mike G says:

    I am so sorry for your loss but thank you for your beautiful post. It brings back many wonderful memories for me.

  127. Brandi Cooke says:

    Dear Scott,Believe me when I say I know what you are going through.I had to put down my precious schnauzer on June 15th 2020.It was the most heartbreaking, traumatic experience of my life.I literally still cry everyday over my baby.He was such a good boy .I swear it is like loosing a child.I can’t forgive myself .I have his ashes on my nightstand next to my bed.Hopefully we will find one another again one-day at the Rainbow bridge.

  128. Cyann says:

    My sincere condolences on the passing of your beloved Zoe. Over the years, I have had 8 rescue dogs, who have fortunately lived very long lives. When death came, I felt peace knowing that they lived a better life than the majority of living beings on earth, (this includes people) and received the best possible health care, (once again and sadly, better than most people). Six years ago, I adopted 2 dogs, who now, quite suddenly, have both developed life-threatening illnesses. I am devastated by my inability to help them. I have great difficulty even thinking of the inevitable next steps any responsible pet owner must take. I blame COVID. This past year, everything that is sad becomes even more sorrowful. So much loss and so much grieving, it is hard to think that one more thing could cause me heartbreak. But the devotion of a dog and the thought of losing that companionship forever is painful indeed. The story of families evolving with dogs is centuries old. Your loving recollections of Zoe are a beautiful tribute to her, and a reminder of the joy found in the brief moments of everyday life. We can only hope that all dogs (and any pet) and people everywhere have the life that Zoe lived.

  129. Alicia says:

    Sorry for your loss… lovely piece

  130. Kevin McIntyre says:

    Thanks for sharing your loss Scott, and please sit in the loss. Experience it. You and Zoe were extremely fortunate. I am crying now b/c my Schitzuh mix rescue named “Hutspah” passed under our bed in August, after saying goodbye to me the night before, something she had never done. I believe she gifted me not having to put her down. I was contacted from overseas about my ex-wife’s dog & his last days 2 weeks ago. I was able to say “bye Lukey boy” over WhatsApp, one of the hardest things I’ve had to do. I’ve always been an emotional person but at 53 I’m experiencing it more w/ “time” and the finite nature of it smacking me in the face w/ a 94-year old father still going; I try my best to experience everything in life & not resist but it is difficult sometimes. TY.

  131. Terry says:

    Magnificent post.

  132. Suresh Kumar says:

    Thanks for sharing. Very raw, touching and resonates deeply. Happy memories with your Zoe will live forever.

  133. Steve Lunz says:

    What a beautiful post. Scott’s honesty and vulnerability are so poignant. So sorry for your loss.

  134. Chris Choate says:

    Beautifully written, very touching and clearly shows your family’s love for Zoe. Sending positive vibes. R.I.P. Zoe

  135. grace g says:

    so beautifully said, thank you for sharing.

  136. HelenLieb says:

    I have enjoyed getting to know you through your podcasts and these posts. We have had three family dogs,I can relate. Sincere condolences on your families loss.I never thought also,it would be so hard.Blessings…

  137. Judith says:

    Thank you and peace and good memories to you and yours…

  138. Justin says:

    The cruelest trick time plays is fooling you into thinking it is passing slowly. Great post.

  139. Coy says:

    Crying before I have even made my coffee.

  140. Kevin says:

    Beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.

  141. Chris Murray says:

    Memento Mori… The waves of grief will subside and you’ll know calm waters again. Life will be rich… and sweeter with the memories in those pics. Peace Prof G.

  142. Enrique Gonzalez Novello says:

    Thanks for sharing this, Scott.

  143. Alicia says:

    I can’t remember when or why I signed up for your email list. Honestly, I don’t remember reading one of them before (though I probably did). After this post, I’ll be on the lookout for your emails and read them when I get them. Thank you.

  144. Kim Logsdon says:

    Just like Wanda, we all find a way to persevere after the loss of a loved one(s). I love having a dog in the family. While so devastating when we have said good-bye, even once on Christmas Day, the joy they bring during their relatively short lives is beautiful. Our current dog, Lexy, is allowed on all the furniture. She definitely needs the human touch. She is never so happy when she is as close to any of us as possible. These days she has to be on my office chair sitting behind me while I Zoom away for work. She turns 9 this year. We will miss her dearly one day. Until we will cherish her spooning, her wagging and even her barking.

  145. Ron says:

    Thanks Scott for writing such a thoughtful post. Sorry for your loss.

  146. bartb says:

    Thank you for posting the day I dread (that will be coming soon). Coco – West Highland White Terrier, 14 going on 15, failing eyesight, total hearing loss, kidney’s weakening – 24/7 pandemic companion . Full of spirit but now naps – a lot! For people who never owned I dog I always offer a simple explanation for our grief – when a dog first comes into your house, its a dog. When it’s time to leave it’s not a dog anymore. No, it’s not a little person in a fur coat, but it’s no longer a “dog”. To live in this world you must be able do three things; to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and when the time comes to let it go, to let it go. ~Mary Oliver

  147. Julia Barros says:

    I never imagined feeling so moved by a text by Scott. But only those who had a beloved animal know the pain of saying goodbye.

  148. Suchitra Rao says:

    Very touching written and reminds me of the passing away of my crazy 9 yr old Indie dog Subbi! But for a dog lover Love is Forever!. We now have 3 Indie loved ones that amazes us everyday!

  149. Maria Palomo says:

    I understand what you are going through. I’ve had to put down two of my babies as I call them. I still miss them and it’s been over 5 & 6 yrs….one right after the other. Both were chihuahuas. I had one for 15yrs. The other only 4yrs. But I still feel the pain… especially when I see a dog somewhere that looks like one of them. I will always be reminded. But I get solace knowing they are not suffering here on earth. They knew they were loved and I know I will see them again in heaven… it’s in the Bible. May God bless you and give you strength. Maria P.

  150. Roger says:

    I wasn’t going to read this because it was going to still feel too close to home. But I’m glad I did, the image of shared and discrete couch privileges is beautiful. Sorry for your loss and thank you for your honest writing. It’s ok to feel completely shattered, and it’s right to take whatever time you need. https://runeatsleeprun.com/2021/01/20/kitty-the-bull-terrier-she-will-be-so-missed/

  151. Kim Barone says:

    It’s an emotional gut punch. No love more pure.

  152. Samantha Richardson says:

    This is the most beautiful thing you’ve written. I’m crying (alone). Partly for you and the loss of Zoe. Partly for me and the loss of my beloved grandma. It marks the same passage of time. We haven’t been allowed to grieve and remember her properly because of COVID. I’m glad you get to remember Zoe well.

  153. Kathy Weiss Beurer says:

    Scott, I’m so sorry for your loss. I dread the day when the same time rolls around for us and our black lab, Cooper. He’s an oddly unaffectionate Lab but we love him no less. Also, you write beautifully. Concise with flow is how I’d describe it.

  154. Fergal says:

    Beautiful piece… love

  155. Lana says:

    Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story. WIshing you and your loved ones a beautiful life.

  156. Sara says:

    So true…i recently had to say goodbye to my constant wingman, jonny who for 14 1/2 years was my constant shadow, i know every good dog owner thinks theirs is the best but he truly was,a wee king im so proud of him ,everyone loved him and he loved everone,from day 1 he c ame everywhere with me,work,shopping,visits..for 12 days over xmas we were back and forth to the vets, he was up and down,but 1 time i was just talking to him and gently rubbing his wee face and the look he gave me was fix me or let me go!! But i couldnt let him go ..selfish i know but after 12 days he just had enough,the process of letting him go is too painful still,a cold table outside ,bloody covid…i dont think ill ever accept hes not coming back ,hes waiting for me somewhere…..

  157. Michael de Groot says:

    Dear Scott and family. Sending sincere condolences to you all. Time is the only healer. 🙏

  158. Joanne Golding says:

    I don’t view your loss…your grief, as any less heart wrenching than mine. (I lost my husband of 51 years in Dec 2020). All your family members will be experiencing their own deep personal pain and heartache, just as mine are doing. Love perservering…a perfect way to describe grief.

  159. Ramil says:

    🥲

  160. Gennaro says:

    Very sorry for your loss, prof. Galloway

  161. Rodrigo says:

    I like reading your posts Scott, and this one was particularly moving. Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss. Vraiment désolé, how we say here in France.

  162. Daniel says:

    A moving tribute to a faithful friend. I’m sure she will be very sadly missed. As always Scott stops me in my tracks with his writing and gives me reason to pause and appreciate the things around me (not least my two middle aged dogs). Thank you for sharing Scott, rest in peace Zoe x

  163. Skye says:

    I have long been a fan of your work and these missives which I look forward to every Friday although I typically despise emails that add to my overflowing inbox. I relish your scathing insights and ability to predict the moves of the markets – and a shared dislike for the megalomaniacal sociothpath that is The Zuck. This one made me cry – it was so utterly raw and human and vulnerable and something that I can relate to on a personal level. I don’t have kids but I do have cats as they have become a close-knit family during lockdown. They are as close to kids as I am going to get and their aloof, on their-own-terms love is an anchor that keeps me somewhat sane. Love leaves us at the mercy of loss but it enriches our lives such that there is no open but to love and open our hearts to the vicissitudes of life on this planet. My heart goes out to you and your family at this time. May the salt of your tears provide fertile ground for yet more love to take root and grow.

  164. Nitin says:

    Sorry for your loss Scott. Beautiful and moving post.

  165. av says:

    touched ❤️🙏

  166. Steve says:

    Spectacular!

  167. Phil Kann says:

    Beautiful, Scott. Just beautiful. Thank you.

  168. SRS says:

    My sympathies. I don’t have dogs, though my kids absolutely would love for us to have dogs. Their favourite “cousins” are my cousin’s two canines, including one they have yet to meet in person. We chose not to have dogs because it is too much trouble, physically speaking. Going forward, I would still not do it because I don’t think I could deal with the grief of investing so much love in a creature (and yes, receiving it back many times over) that I know I will lose in a decade or so. I am baffled by those who choose to do this, esp as I can see their emotional toll on them when they lose one, either due to the ravages of disease or natural canine mortality.

  169. Asa Jean says:

    You are a good man

  170. Courtney Harwood says:

    Cried my way through this ❤️

  171. Michael S. says:

    I feel your pain. The part of life passing by and the baby/8yr old gone…Read Deepak Chopra “the Book of Secrets”. I know it sounds cheezy and whacked but trust me. I don’t remember the chapter maybe it is “Death makes Life Possible”. But you will make peace with those emotions and find bliss. Good luck. Your the Man!

  172. KatherineZ says:

    Sorry for your loss

  173. David Shein says:

    Awesome post and beautiful photo too Prof G. Hope the family doing ok

  174. Christopher says:

    Feeling your pain understanding loss only solidifies the lesson of unconditional love .

  175. Sunil says:

    Scott- sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story. It was impossible to finish with a dry eye. It was a beautiful tribute to love and to Zoe. Be well Prof G.

  176. Matthew Howard Smith says:

    weeping uncontrollably

  177. David Kirk says:

    What a wonderful tribute. My eyes watered as your experience reminded me of my own. Life will move on, but damn, Zoe will remain in your memory forever.

  178. Greg Wagner says:

    I’m a few glasses of red wine in, very touched, tearful, and yeah life goes one, but this reminds us of what marks time, how we measure our life and love, and aren’t we lucky to have loved something that dreams with us.

  179. Samantha says:

    Beautifully written and so precisely gets at the nuances of this kind of grief. Life is rich.

  180. Stanley P Cook says:

    Is there a greater unconditional love than a dog has for its human family and vice versa? I think not as the two species meld over time into an indescribable energy that one can only feel every time the tail wags when you enter the room and how deeply satisfying it is to have your canine pal put its head in your lap and simply close its eyes at the happy landing. Nope, the bond cannot be broken neither by time nor death…..

  181. pat says:

    sorry for the loss

  182. Kathy Crabtree says:

    Also caught your interview on PBS- delightful! A man of msny talents!

  183. Rena says:

    Zoe was so lucky to have found her way into your family and into all of your hearts….as a pet, what more could she have asked for?….I have had the privilege of watching you lecture “live” over Zoom…your authenticity was never in doubt; today’s article just reinforced what a real person you are….hoping you and your family will find much joy in your memories…and I promise, I’ll never tell you allowed her on the couch!

  184. Daniel Bourke says:

    Long time reader. First time commenter. Your posts make me laugh and feel like I’m smarter after reading them. This one made me cry. And it feels even better than the the others. Rest In Peace Zoe.

  185. Kathy Crabtree says:

    I lost my 14 year old- Mutton- a lab -doddle who looked like a little black sheep when we brought him home, he died 2years ago,- yeah, I still grieve. I grieve because even tho I’ve been married to a great guy for over 45 years- no one ever loved me like that dog did. I thought It would hurt more to lose someone you loved- it hurt more I think to realize I lost someone who loved me – unconditionally! That same guy who I have loved for 45 plus years has been diagnosed with stage IV metastatic melanoma with a two year prognosis – even tho I love him dearly the same grief applies- who will love me like that when he’s gone, Selfish but real- ( crying now). Thanks for the reminder-

  186. Ann says:

    Crying. Beautiful. I’m so sorry and so happy for you.

  187. Mitch says:

    Your insight and sharing is much appreciated

  188. Joanna says:

    Pets are the truest example of love and devotion. I have four cats and two dogs and I could not imagine life without these nutbars. We can learn so much the animal kingdom. Thank you for sharing your love and your pain. It resonated to my core. Love to you and your family.

  189. Carolyn Scott says:

    I dont often read all the way to the end of the many emails I get from marketing companies, and I never comment. This one had me to the last word. That was us back at Easter and also in hard lock down, so only one person was allowed to enter the vet for the last breath of our beloved labrador, the kids and I cried in the carpark waiting for my husband to return with the details of how it all went. We said we would have a break from dogs grieve for a year or two. Well 4 months later when none of us could stand the sadness of looking at others walking their dogs on the street and our empty house – we put our name down with a breeder and we are now the happy owners of a new Golden Retriever puppy, the house is alive again and the kids come together to build new relationships and care for this new puppy. You probably think no right now, but in time you two will forge another chapter….

  190. Lawrence says:

    Life is rich, thank you for reminding me. Love to you and your family.

  191. Pat says:

    Well this fucked up my weekend. Now I need a drink and go hug my smelly-fat-4-pawed-best friend whether he wants it or not

  192. Toni Craig says:

    Dogs are the epitome of unconditional love.A lesson for humans..

  193. Nancy says:

    I’m sobbing as I read this. So beautifully written. The love and bond we share with our pets is something truly special. It’s much more than unconditional love. Bless you and your family..and Zoe of course.

  194. Daviel says:

    Scott, Besides providing amazing business advice and having sharp business acumen, I appreciate the time you take to let your readers know that we are all human and no matter much or little we make we can never escape the finality of life. As a young man, your words have stuck profoundly with me. Listening to you is like having a conversation with a Dad—and I have a great Dad—but he’s not as open with his feelings and emotions as you are. Your kids are lucky to have a father like you and no matter what at the end of the day you will be remembered to them not as we all know you to be, Scott Galloway the professor, but Scott, the Dad. It is amazing and a privilege to read your work. Thanks for sharing!

  195. Jonathan says:

    Tears. Putting our Jordan down was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

  196. Peter says:

    For such a street-smart, wise (i.e. smart and -ass) media guru/thought leader, this was an incredibly touching, moving, authentic piece. Thank you, Scott, I can feel your loss and appreciate this story. It is honestly one of the best pet-loss stories I’ve read. The pictures and illustrations make it even better.

  197. Kathy says:

    So beautifully written. Hugs to your family. Thank you for being the kind of man the world needs today.

  198. Loren says:

    So sorry Scott. This story brought back the last few days with our 20 year old Westie-so many parallels. Thank you

  199. Hopkins says:

    So sorry for your loss. I just lost my Golden Retriever Kayleigh Jo to lymphoma after being my constant companion for 15 years and share it’s a really rough time. What’s apparent is the hope that we can be the human beings our dogs think we are…

  200. William says:

    A great tribute to a faithful family member. Reading your article touches my heart and i am truly sorry for your lost. It reminds me to cherish the time i have with my 3 beautiful dogs. Thank you.

  201. Paul says:

    Scott, I’ve read most of what you’ve written and have attended a presentation live. I grasp less that half of what you write and say — my deficiency, not your’s. Today I grasped 100%, because I’ve felt what you’re feeling. Parting is such sweet sorrow. God bless you, your family and Zoe’s soul (a given).

  202. Rita Shefsky says:

    That is the most beautiful tribute I have ever read about a dog’s passing…written with originality, honesty and trademark Prof G humour! Passing this one on to all of my dog loving friends. Thank you!

  203. Andre says:

    Beautifully written, thank you for sharing this.

  204. Engramar Bollas says:

    Run free now, Zoe. Condolences to the family, Prof. Scott.

  205. Ryan says:

    Your writing is otherworldly. It is a gift.

  206. Adrian Tan says:

    Sorry for your loss, Professor.

  207. Kristine says:

    The most powerful post you’ve made to date and I’ve been a long time follower. It’s amazing what you can do with words and I hope that you continue to feel Zoe’s presence when you write your posts. Sending all the love.

  208. Bill Carr says:

    Damn you Scott Galloway! You broke my heart with this post! I will give extra attention and love to my dog Maisy tonight.

  209. Tara Antongiorgi says:

    Precious. Thank you for sharing your grief, it will undoubtedly ring in my ears. Our 11 year old Bentley has been there as you describe and the last year his desire to only be loved in turn embraced us in our quarantine. How you describe the loss and what it teaches you/us is something I can relate to. To love persevering.

  210. Elle Hill says:

    Maybe your most powerful post yet. Thanks for putting it out here. Elle

  211. Bill Day says:

    Scott, I am so sorry! We have a 10 year old Vizsla, Bolt, whose head is on my lap as I write this. Your post reminds me to cherish every moment. Thank you.

  212. Curiousthomas says:

    Condolences to you and your entire family.

  213. Mike Hales says:

    Some really beautiful writing there professor, nailed it. Love your work and I’m sorry for your loss. We just said goodbye to our 18-year old Jack Russell and yes, love perseveres!

  214. Regina says:

    I’m so moved and like many others sitting here crying. I’m so sorry for your family’s loss.

  215. David R Schoenberger says:

    You’ve said so much over the years, Scott; much of it sage, some even brilliant. This post took my breath away as it was the perfect mixture of mind, body and soul. I’m so sorry for you loss and very proud to know you…

  216. Marty Weening says:

    Now I’m crying – impossible not to – so so sorry – memories like this will comfort you.

  217. Michael says:

    Great composition.

  218. Nancy Meadows says:

    Your thoughtful, touching post on this topic was powerful and timely. My 15-year old dog Roger died peacefully in my arms on September 17, 2020 – very similar to what you experienced (except I didn’t expect it), and it was a lightening bolt of sorrow and pain to me. He had been with me every single day of his 15-year life, and as you note, these are powerful markers of time. The price to pay for love like this is the pain of loss. Wishing you and your family peace and healing. I still shed a tear at the loss of my little Roger. How lucky I am to have had him. And how lucky you and your family were to have Zoe. As you say, life IS rich.

  219. michael says:

    Thanks for this moving piece. I dread the day my 3-year-old dog dies…

  220. Janice Bennett says:

    This was so touching. Peace

  221. David Morgan says:

    Prof G, so sorry for your loss and thank you so much for sharing your humanity.

  222. Ami Fisher says:

    Professor Galloway – So sorry for your loss – I can completely understand. All throughout my first jobs and getting my MBA at Stern, where you were my favorite Professor, my Cavalier King Charles, Lola, was my best friend and biggest supporter. I think of all of the wonderful times I had with Lola everyday – I hope the great memories of Zoe and your family will help all of you during this difficult time.

  223. Divya says:

    This is exactly how I lost my Simba, two years ago to yesterday. When you bring a dog into your life, you’re guaranteed heartbreak. Why do we put ourselves through loving a being with a naturally shorter lifespan than ours? Because there is no greater feeling or purer love. Thank you for sharing this familiar story- one as old as time.

  224. Theresa says:

    Damn it Scott! You made me cry. I’ve lost both parents, but nothing is harder than taking your beloved pet to the vet to say goodbye. It feels like betrayal. Zoe is waiting for you at the rainbow bridge.

  225. Meera Kapil says:

    Loved reading this, dogs are so special, my dog and I had a bond that is unmatched, unique, sits in a very special place within my heart, love them forever, they are always around, they are literal angels, love you romeo, my absolute gem❤️

  226. Simon Young says:

    Something in my eye…

  227. Bill Stinneford says:

    Beautiful writing. Gave me some good memories of my dog, since departed. I am sorry for your loss.

  228. Kammeron Cran says:

    Such a beautiful piece of writing. I can feel your grief coming through it. My little fluffy cavoodle Michael and I have a similar pact – he’s only allowed on the bed with me when no one else is home! And he’s never broken it. Zoe sounds gorgeous and amazing. As does your whole family. May Zoe be getting lots of cuddles wherever she is now.

  229. Matthew Dowsett says:

    Why does a dog stick his head out the car window? I’ll tell you why… Because it feels amazing to have the wind in your face. It makes you feel alive. It’s wind therapy. Dogs are smart. They figured this out. Humans are smart.

  230. Kevin Brennan says:

    Truly moving and lovely, Scott Galloway. Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

  231. Peter Jaffe says:

    Humans best friend. Offer unconditional love. Anybody who has had a dog, can relate to your post. So touching and so true. Thanks for sharing.

  232. Kameron K Rabenou says:

    Your best email ever.

  233. Wens Gerdyman says:

    Rest in Peace, Zoe. Sorry for your loss.

  234. Katrin says:

    There is a German saying, which might help you in the grieving process: Geteiltes Leid ist halbes Leid. My heart goes out to you.

  235. Daniel says:

    thank you for a beautiful post

  236. Chas. Porter says:

    Oh man. Thank you for sharing that with so much love. Sobbing now.

  237. Victoria Campbell says:

    Oh aww, such a beautiful story and memories of a very loved dog and family. From my own experience, time does not heal the bottomless wound of losing your dog. Continue you cherish your beautiful memories and someday you will be reunited. I am so sorry for your families loss.

  238. Susan Reiner says:

    Sobbing when I finished reading. My first dog, a Jack Russell, was my husband’s and my first child. She hated when our son was born. She, too, was never allowed on our big, white down sofa. I never saw her even try. But when we would leave the apartment, I began notice, when we came home, there was a perfect Jack Russell-sized indent on the cozy top cushion. I realized she must have interpreted the rule as-No Sofa When the Humans are Home. She died, and another fabulous Jack Russell joined our family, so my son could know the joy of living with a dog. Our second Jack Russell, age 16, is still with us, our son has grown, and I’m much more lenient with dogs on the furniture. Thanks for this.

  239. Francesca says:

    All dogs are guide dogs, one way or another. Thank you for sharing your heartbreak as we all revisit the unique and personal pain of losing our boon companions. Honored to share this grief.

  240. Linda Abraham says:

    Such a meaningful tribute, Scott, beautifully written. Zoe sounded like an amazing dog who played a formative role in your family. Feeling deeply for your loss.

  241. Marcus says:

    Beautifully written.in my experience grief is handled by us all in our own way and speed. But it certainly never fails to impact us all. Whether we acknowledge it or not. Thanks for such an honest read. Marcus New Zealand

  242. Melanie Rose says:

    Beautifully written and deeply meaningful! Needing a tissue here.

  243. Meg C says:

    You’ve described, perfectly, what it’s like to grieve a pet during a pandemic when so many others have lost humans. I put my 13 year old dog (suddenly) down last month and have also been self-conscious about my sadness, though ultimately I believe that loss is loss, no matter how much fur it is or is not wearing. I’m so sorry for yours.

  244. Todd Baltz says:

    I live in a rural, small town. I have had several dogs over the course my so far short life span. Each death or disappearance sucks. In particular, I had to put down a puppy only a few years ago due to its own health concerns and human health concerns rocking my family at the time. It rocked me and every time look at this brother (the puppy’s), I am reminded of that time. I am so sorry for the loss of your family member. Thank you for showing strength in vulnerability.

  245. JAG says:

    Thank you for sharing. The message is strong and let me thinking on the life cycle, that applies to everything.

  246. Wendi says:

    Now I’m crying. Celebrate each moment. Thanks for sharing. RIP Zoe!

  247. L Miller says:

    Dogs are members of the family. They are not children but they sleep in your bed (come on, admit it), eat your food, listen to your conversations and keep it to themselves and are always glad to see you. Not crying when your dog dies is a sign of a sociopath. I’m sorry for your loss and I am glad your dog had someone who loved her so much through her life.

  248. Ed Sosnowski says:

    Well written! We’ll all hug our furry friends and our children a bit tighter tonight reflecting on your post. As a father of 4 and one furry baby, my heart and prayers go out to your family for an equal number of smiles to match your tears. Clearly Zoe touched your hearts and provided many happy memories, may they lift you up in this difficult time!

  249. DP says:

    Very touching post, Professor. I had to go through the same experience when I was a teenager and it was horrible. Stay closer with your kids now. They really need you in these tough times.

  250. Paul H says:

    Great wake-up call on matters important. Love, affection and commitment are unconditional – as shown by Zoe. Time is a commodity over which we have no control, only memories! Ultimately, it is the family and affairs that are involved make life interesting, memorable, and worth living. Thanks, Professor!

  251. Lauren says:

    Scott, I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing this story. Hits home.

  252. Nilesh says:

    Sorry for your loss Prof G. and thanks for sharing this story with us.

  253. Debbe Perry says:

    In May 2016, my husband, our two precious furbabies, and I moved into a retirement community, having just retired from our “work life” and downsized from a spacious suburban home on an acre to a two bedroom apartment. It was, to say the least, an adjustment, but one which we made with excitement and great anticipation. Four years plus later, I am the sole survivor. So much love and so many memories – all good, many also bittersweet. My heart goes out to you. My admiration does, too – good for you for letting your feelings out! Anyone who doesn’t understand doesn’t know love.

  254. Ed says:

    The love of a great dog is like no other. Thanks for reminding me of my Roc N Roll.

  255. Karl Frazier says:

    Without words right now…. Love & peace to your family. And hopefully a new dog or two in the near future.

  256. Zsolt says:

    Thank you – it truly is a wonderful tribute. Had to share it to my family and our 6-year old beagle got a little more attention than usually. As if that is even possible… 🙂 Stay strong!

  257. Richard says:

    I feel your pain Scott. I’ve had to do the same with three dogs over the past decades. It’s hard. Thanks for being open and honest about your feelings. Love your podcast.

  258. Thomas Caine Wynbrandt says:

    It’s impossible to read this without tearing up.

  259. C. Parker says:

    Dear Professor Galloway. Your post shook me to my core. Having just seen that very episode of WandaVision, I wept for hours at the simplicity and honesty of that very sentence – reflecting on its meaning for my own experiences. The love we are capable is universal and our experiences of loving are same. I have had the privilege of loving and having to let go of two dogs. The grief is very much love persevering.

  260. Eddie says:

    You nailed it. Just been looking through pics of my beautiful lab mongrel Rory who I picked up in a shelter in Austin Texas and I was with when he hit the big sleep on the East coast of Scotland. Every picture had a toddler hanging off him in various states of joy. I’d love to imagine him playing with Zoe. Thanks Scott.

  261. Jes says:

    Hey Prof, well said. As a youngish guy who lost both parents recently, I wanted to send you a big man hug and say that loved ones, dog or person, continue living within us. Zoe is smiling down on you and the boys. Lots of love, Jes from Fall 2020 strat sprint.

  262. John Schneider says:

    Just beautiful. Thank you, Scott.

  263. Lynda Napolitano says:

    Just perfect.

  264. Joan M. Dowling says:

    One of your best ever..cried as I read this and looking at my sweet pup Kota asleep next me

  265. Terry says:

    Scott – so well said. Every family should experience the love and family dynamics of a generational pet (dog/cat).

  266. Joanna says:

    Thank you for writing this and sharing it with us – it’s the important stuff and it would have been So much easier not to.

  267. tony guarisco says:

    Bless you, for this!

  268. Ron Neuenberger says:

    Thanks for sharing.

  269. Michael says:

    One hardass making another one cry. Thanks Scott.

  270. Marina says:

    Thank you for sharing this experience with such quiet eloquence. You captured its essence perfectly. It’s not just Zoe, it’s all the important moments she shared with each member of the family.

  271. Annalisa Palen says:

    So sorry for your loss. It is truly traumatic losing a beloved family dog. I hope you and your family find peace and comfort.

  272. Scott Eastin says:

    Prof G, I don’t always agree with your viewpoint or style but this essay really touched me as a fellow dog owner. Thank you for the heartfelt essay and sorry for your loss.

  273. Bryan says:

    My wife and I went through this same outcome(same symptoms and diagnosis) as well on Valentine’s Day 2018. We had a Shar-pei named Marilyn. She brought us together. Literally. My now wife was interested in me because she saw me walking her. When she passed I couldn’t even go down the hall with her to her to where she was given the injection. To this day, that is the worst thing I have ever done in my life. I didn’t have the strength to be with her in her most vulnerable moment. It kills me still. I’m crying as I write this. Thank you for sharing the note. It hits home.

  274. Jan says:

    Our dogs are family members and, at 78, I am now down to a household of two — my loving goldendoodle Charlie and me. He has lymphoma. It was detected at Stage 4 and the prognosis is fatal in 6-18 months, depending on his response to the chemo. He is the smartest, most loving, most social and handsomest dog I have ever had. The chemo is not working and he is slowly slipping away. I cherish every moment I have left with him and, given my age, I do not know if I will get another dog and put myself through this painful loss again. Your essay has touched my heart — and Zoe will always have a place there with you.

  275. Ivan says:

    Thank you for this beautiful post, we experienced the same with our two Rottweilers and I know the feeling you describe.

  276. Coley says:

    I’m sitting outside of a ortho surgery center waiting for my wife of 50+ years to be returned to me, and I’m sobbing. This story of Zoe is both close to home and reenforcement of the “vapor” of time. The most ephemeral of all substances, time begs us to savor every moment; treasure every loved one and leave little to regret. Thank you Prof G for sharing Zoe’s passing with us. Thank you for reminding all of your followers that time is a precious commodity. Use it well and leave little to regret. Beat, HCG

  277. Andrew says:

    What a beautiful, vulnerable post. Moments like these remind us what’s more sacred: accolades at work or presence at home.

  278. Richard Ross says:

    You expressed the way I felt when my favorite dog died. 15 years later you brought tears to my eyes again.

  279. Chris says:

    Your vulnerability inspires me.

  280. Bud says:

    Beautiful

  281. james janowiak says:

    Scott – very sorry for your loss. Been through it. Dogs will never replace our children – but they never talk back and only want to be loved and love you back even more.

  282. john says:

    This is a beautiful read – tears are rolling down my cheeks. My dog was named Diesel and I had him for 15 years. I’ll never forget him. Thank you for sharing this.

  283. Marinn Jackson says:

    Prof Galloway I’m so sorry that you had just lost your dog and then had talk about our first world problems. Even if you were feeling down that day – you brought a lot of joy to our clients. Much respect.

  284. Ken Knueven says:

    What a wonderful post. Having gone through similar losses over the last few years (family and four-legged friends) I truly appreciate what really hits home to you… “… A reminder that time is the most relentless force in the universe: that no matter what we do, its thievery marches on…” So very true… I’m sad now just writing this…

  285. Nelson says:

    Powerful.

  286. Fred T McWilliams III says:

    Thank for sharing your love of you dog. I going to give mine a big hug.

  287. Rick says:

    Thank you for sharing your love and grief. We are so fortunate for their unconditional love.

  288. Lisa Kensok says:

    What a well-written tribute. Thank you and much love to your family.

  289. Paula says:

    Beautiful post. I lost my 14 year old baby (cat, but you know…youngest of 3) a year ago…in some ways, I’m still not over it…and since then, the other two seem to have recognized “Damn, we’re old, too.” Now they sleep a lot more, cling a lot more and hobble a little more. As do I. I’m truly sorry for your loss.

  290. Pete says:

    That was a very powerful post. I’ve always been intrigued by the special inter-species relationship we share with our dogs. I’m going to go home and hug my whoodle, Teddy. Thanks, Scott.

  291. Randy says:

    So sorry for your loss, Scott. Our dog was just diagnosed with cancer and we’re struggling with knowing that he has a few months left with us. If you (or your readers) ever get to VT, I encourage you to visit the Dog Chapel (https://www.dogmt.com/Dog-Chapel.html). It is a place that celebrates the life (and commemorates the passing) of dogs. It is a wonderful place (and once I visited, I wondered why there weren’t similar places, everywhere). Stay strong

  292. Liene Donckers says:

    ❤️ A true love tribute ❤️ I recognize the ‘gaze’ in our Spanish Waterdog and the ‘devotion’ in our Caucasian Shepherd. Stay strong Family!

  293. erika says:

    beautiful and truthful post. Animals, dogs especially are such divine , loyal and wonderful companions. Wishing solace to you and your family. xx

  294. Michael says:

    Not much to say.

  295. Seth says:

    So sorry for your loss Scott. Losing a dog/pet can be as hard as losing a human loved one. Sending good vibes.

  296. Brenda Freeman says:

    Dear Scott, As a long time listener to both Pivot and your podcast, I am really touched by your consistently radical transparency. I’m truly sorry for your family’s loss. And continue to turn your nose up to the haters, you are insightful and brilliantly funny. Rock on. Warmly Brenda F

  297. John says:

    If your goal was to make me cry, then your column was an incredible success. We lost “Our Girls”, two chocolate Labradors, a little over a year ago. I miss them everyday. I take some comfort in that we were able “to give them a good life.” Their gifts to my wife and I are immeasurable. There is no getting around it – love hurts. In a way, the grief is but another gift.

  298. Aaron Roam says:

    “Time is the school in which we learn, Time is the fire in which we burn.”

  299. Michelle Pollock says:

    I came here for the tech. I stay here for the heart. That’s “retention.”

  300. Jens says:

    Sorry, I feel the pain, most meaningless use of my time with your letter so far. I have loved every single one to this point.

  301. JAMES BLACK says:

    Scott, for someone who is a card-carrying Mr. Smarty-pants (or in your case, maybe a Mr. Adroit Slacks), you have shown yourself to be a man of great emotional deapth and maturity. Which proves that self-worth sometimes trumps net worth. It looks good on you. Jim

  302. Hal says:

    Whew 😭

  303. Gary Simkin says:

    Your gift with words is truly amazing.Sam (Samantha) was one of many dogs we have shared and loved over 48 years.Sam a Samoyed Golden Retriever was Uber special for me because her soulful manner was impossible to explain like the miracle of childbirth.You came as close to expressing the internalized grief we feel for our dogs “lost but never forgotten”as Tim says below.Thanks for the reminder.

  304. Aoife says:

    You captured the fierce love and beauty and absurdity so perfectly. With my dog, I’m not sure who is looking after who each day. It’s a a beautiful mystery we don’t want or need to be solved.

  305. JB says:

    “Love is something you can leave behind you when you die. It’s that powerful.” –John Lame Deer

  306. DEREK SOUTER says:

    Agree 100% with the story and all the emotions it has and engenders! Q? Does one replace? Can one replace? Should one replace? 6 years on since my precious Grady (13 year old Cocker) I’ve not. Don’t have the mental fortitude-YET!! Thanks again for a beautiful tale.

    • Fjb says:

      As a dog lover for over 30 years, I can say with authority that the best dog you ever had is the one at your side right now…

  307. Daniel says:

    Thank you Scott for sharing this – what a touching tribute to Zoe.

  308. Jihan El Touni says:

    I am so very sorry for your loss … I was very touched by the description of your genuine feelings, grief and the perseverance of love. Thank you for sharing your deep feelings – unapologetically – courageously – tenderly.

  309. Debbie says:

    This was beautiful, Scott – thank you for sharing. It brought back memories of my own beloved pets who I have had to say goodbye to and help on to their next adventure. The pain is real and deep because pets give unconditional and everlasting love, a trait that we humans – the supposed masters of all on earth – have yet to understand and master.

  310. Sam Gilbert says:

    Our children are now 30 and 24 and are launched. Last week we lost their nanny. We all loved her and stayed in touch and remember and laugh. So for the last week I’ve been seeing memories of my kids as they were playing pee wee soccer or hugging me after a long business trip. And we miss our nanny. If there were such a thing as inter species actuarial tables, our 13 year old Buddy the cockapoo will be gone before too long. I haven’t the foggiest how I will get through that inevitable and unbearably painful loss. At least my kids toys are now enjoying life like Toy Story 3. Blessings to your family.

  311. Christine M Lies says:

    Thanks for sharing. Happy that I stumbled upon Pivot. I enjoy your insight and all the raw truth you share.

  312. Aaron says:

    Heartbreaking – sorry for your loss, Scott. Beautifully written post.

  313. Tim says:

    Beautiful and heartbreaking post, Scott. It reminded me of the dogs I have lost but never forgotten.

  314. Karen says:

    Crying. I think the only way to understand this grief is to have lived through the death of a truly special dog. We lost our Mary about 6 months ago, and we are forever changed. I am forever grateful to her – that we did not have to choose for her. I am not surprised that she spared us. That’s Mary. She was 17 years young until the end. And will live forever in our hearts. I also understand the connection to kids and youth lost. Our two daughters get it now too. Rest in the knowledge that your heart will stop aching like it does now.

  315. linda says:

    so beautiful

  316. Maura says:

    Once again, you make me cry. I lost my mom in this pandemic. I discovered a wonderful new song to listen to if you want to remember any beautiful being in your life who has passed on – “Remember Me Beautiful” by Brandy Clark. I had just downloaded and had a good cry before reading your column and crying some more! Thanks

  317. Pablo says:

    This is the first and might well be the last- time I write a comment. That’s the power of truly sharing yourself.

  318. Elizabeth says:

    I am deeply sorry for your loss. My heart is with you and your family.

  319. JC Wandemberg says:

    It never ceases to amaze me how humans can get so attached to their pets and have no qualms spending plenty of time, energy and money on them, while being deliberately oblivious about other fellow humans who may be suffering or going to bed on an empty stomach every night. It almost makes me puke.

  320. Iain B says:

    I’m broken after reading this… we don’t deserve dogs.

  321. Lou says:

    Jesus I am sitting here crying with my dog on my lap.

  322. Steve says:

    Here I am, 62 years old, crying like a baby at the memory of losing my beloved Akita, Simba, over TWO years ago. Thanks, Scott, for sharing this and reminding me that there are many more important things than chasing a dollar.

  323. Diane P. says:

    Thank you – I really needed this today.

  324. Linda H says:

    After reading the comments that have already been posted, there is little different that I can say other than I feel your pain. Like many others, I was in tears after reading this heartfelt homage to your dog and the love that now extends to your family. Zoe was a big part of your transformation from narcissist to whole human. I know you are grateful but right now crying and lamenting your loss is the right thing to be doing. I am sad for you and your family’s grief.

  325. Ross says:

    My sincere sympathy. “We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle; easily and often breached…”

    • Chris says:

      This is beautiful and truthful. Did you write it do you have attribution, I would like to share it with your permission.

  326. Vijay says:

    Thanks for reminding us that the relationships that matter are those based on unconditional affection. So sorry for your loss. She had a good life and a loving family. We should all be so lucky.

  327. Diane says:

    What a beautiful, heartfelt post. My heart goes out to you and your family, Scott. I will save your words for the dreaded time that will come in my own life with our little petunia Pug, Sophie.

  328. Alex says:

    Wow, Scott. I read your blog every week and listen to everything you do in the media. Never have I been compelled like today to comment. My heart breaks for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post and reminding us what is truly important.

  329. Tom Stephenson says:

    Thanks for sharing this Scott. From afar, I join you in your grief and your family’s loss. Time is the great robber and as I approach 70, more real every day. I hope your family overcomes their individual and collective loss of Zoe. Life is unrelenting at times, especially now. Mahalo.

  330. Mica says:

    You captured the power, love and beauty of the family dog so well. Thank you. I can relate.

  331. Bryan Ward says:

    I am in the early stages of grief as I comfort my beloved Springer Spaniel, ‘Olive’, who is dying from kidney failure. She has been my adventure buddy, confidant, companion and best friend for 14 years and I cannot imagine her not being there every morning to see what we are going to do next. I’m very sorry for you and your families loss of Zoe. She was clearly loved and that is all you can do in this life.

  332. Barbara Parrish says:

    I’m heartbroken for you and your family. We’ll raise a glass to Zoe tonight.

  333. Shosho Oshiafi says:

    Really touching post. I felt the emotional connection you and your family had with the dog. Really sad. Hopefully you can cherish the memories you had together. Gosh. It makes it seem as an eulogy

  334. Eric says:

    I’ve been an avid weekly reader for years now, but this is my first time commenting, and also the first time I’ve had tears streaming down my face while reading your weekly email. My wife and I are proud parents to 2 Great Danes, with a human child of our own on the way. We love these dogs more than anything, and with them approaching middle age we’re already fearing the crippling sadness that will come when we eventually have to say goodbye. We too have heard that when a real baby comes into your life the dogs often take a back seat to your feelings for your flesh and blood. I’m sure we’ll experience that as well, but I also know that these pups will always be my first born, no matter how many dogs come after them. My heart sinks thinking about the end, and I know your family is going through a lot of emotions right now. Dogs may not be people, but they exist because of us and for our enjoyment much more than people do. For this they deserve all of our emotions and unconditional love, as they give us the same in return.

  335. Diane Mermigas says:

    What a beautiful gift of life and love you have given Zoe and your children. I am so sorry for your loss. Four children and three very long-lived dogs later, I still speak affectionately about the joy Winnie, Winston and Chubbs brought to my family so unconditionally. As a longtime fan of your work, thank you for sharing such a personal experience. Shine on.

  336. Leigh Manacher says:

    This gutted me. I have 2 boys and a husband for who I bought a tshirt “I’m only speaking to my dog today.” Our dog is our north star. Everyone is obsessed with her. Although she is still with us, I dread the day when I will write a similar post. Sincerest condolences. Pets are just soul crushing. The moment you welcome one into your home, you set yourself up for a world of grief.

  337. Conrad Jooste says:

    Scott, SO sorry for the family’s loss! I’m just about to give our beagle a big cuddle.

  338. Robert Lominski says:

    I’m seriously tearing up over here – sorry for your loss and hug the kids and your other dog even more!

  339. Martin L Vargas says:

    Scott, thanks for this. As I ride in a vehicle through the Sonoran desert, looking out at the hardships of life, I see all these people that with so little are incredibly happy, fulfilled. Thanks for reminding me that our connections to mammals, to other beings, to life is indispensable and we are sadly destroying it. I’m rambling sorry. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes.

  340. Tuula Rea says:

    Oh Scott, I carry your grieving heart in my heart today.

  341. Howard Tullman says:

    Maybe the best piece ever.

  342. Philip says:

    Scott, sometimes your relentless pessimism, the product of a very sharp mind, just stops me from reading further. About Zoe, I read every word, twice. A very caring heart wrote about Zoe …and I am grateful for your heart, Zoe’s heart and hold your words closely as I scratch our Baci’s soft ears. Blessings.

  343. MQ says:

    Sorry for your loss. What a wonderful and beautiful goodbye. I hope you take comfort in the fact that your dog had a good life with good humans around her.

  344. Marlene Greenhalgh says:

    Homage to Zoe Hugs to you and your family

  345. Dianna says:

    This is everything, thank you for sharing.. now I am going to cry every 6 hrs thinking of this

  346. Jim B says:

    A beautiful post. Much respect and sincere condolences for your loss.

  347. Claudia Eiseman says:

    Beautiful piece Scott. Still crying. RIP Zoe.

  348. Kirsten says:

    Perfectly expressed. As a mother of three “strapping young lads” & a 2x vizsla owner and lover of dogs – I’m right there with you. I’m very sorry for your loss, but I’m happy for you that you can feel it so beautifully. I’m so glad you could all be there for Zoe when it was time for her to go. We should all be so lucky.

  349. Larry says:

    Scott, no words suffice. Leonardo da Vinci touched well on this situation: “As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.” I hope that is so with Zoe. 18 months ago, we had six cats; today we have 3. Our sense of loss for each endures, as for the many other dogs and cats who were part of our family before and with them. And yet, the joy each gave to us every day – the love each gave unconditionally and received with joy – carried this price, one known to us when each joined our family. Beyond cherishing their memories and holding their living sisters even more closely (we know that they feel the losses as much as we do), to honor each by paying it forward, we donated a respectable sum to the Grey Muzzle Organization (https://www.greymuzzle.org/). Lisa and her team find forever homes for senior dogs whose other options are not so good. For your family, this, too, shall pass, but never completely, and perhaps in some metaphysical way, that is a good thing.

  350. JD says:

    You captured the emotions every pet parent goes through amazingly well! The downside of being a pet parent is that the “keeds” (my late father’s term for his pups) never live long enough! Sorry for your loss! The pain subsides and you always have the pics and memories.

  351. Linda Heller says:

    Your sharing opened my heart to my own grief and loss over the years of my beloved companions. I embrace the solace of the truth- Love Perseveres

  352. Steve Heckard says:

    My deepest condolences, Scott. I, like many others have been there and know this loss. It is terrible. 10 years later we got a new puppy last month and the worst of it is knowing that I will have to revisit that time again. Dogs are universal. Maybe the most universal of anything in our lives. We all can relate.

  353. Linda says:

    Wow! This post caught me off-guard… so authentic, so true, and so human. I am sitting here crying for my many pets who have gone now these many years, and who live on in my various passwords, and a sense of foreboding for my two older cats — their time will come soon enough — as will mine. Thank you. This was beautiful.

  354. Bruce S. Butler says:

    Scott And Family: I am so sorry for your loss. What a touching tribute to Zoe’s life! It will get better but never over. Preserver.

  355. Seo says:

    Thank you for sharing this.

  356. Jennie Marie Naffie says:

    I am a puddle of tears. You captured every emotion so well. So very well written–thank you Scott.

  357. Simone says:

    Oh, man, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved dog Zoe. I’ve been in your shoes several times over my six decades, and it’s never easy to have to put your loving dog or cat down. Peace & much love, old friend.

  358. Kevin K says:

    Teared up reading this one. So sorry for your loss but such an inspiring and optimistic outlook.

  359. Josh says:

    My condolences. As always, you bring the life lesson to the forefront. Life is so rich as you say and it is the time we have and how we use it that matters. Hoping you and your family find some comfort in the many beautiful memories you have with Zoe.

  360. Mark Gruen says:

    One of Scott’s best

  361. Donny says:

    So sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing.

  362. Natira says:

    This is an absolutely beautiful and breathtaking story. Thank you for writing it and sharing Zoe with me. I love her.

  363. Jeff says:

    This is what really matters. I realized that 13 years ago when my ex wanted to take the kids out of state. Work didn’t matter, things didn’t matter. Luckily, it didn’t happen. We have an old blind, almost deaf Vizsla/Chocolate Lab that I think won’t last the year. I dread the grief we will feel when we lose our third child. Thank you Scott for sharing, you just made it more real and I am grateful.

  364. Abney Harper says:

    Sending love and prayers to your family.

  365. Susan says:

    I never comment on anything … and I mean.I.never.comment – ever. I love this piece, Scott. So well said. We, too have a Vizsla and our Boone, holds our family together. We, too have 2 teenage boys who have grown up with our Boone. I see my future in this article. Thank you (I think!)

  366. Ofa Swann says:

    Ni Bula vinaka, Dear Professor and family, We are so sorry to hear of your loss. May Zoe Rest In Peace. Please know we share your sorrow at this time and pray for healing and peace. Loloma bibi yani Ofa and Niumaia.

  367. Tonia Terzi says:

    I am really sorry for your loss. And thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us. It is an honor! We feel you and we understand you!. Take care and remember that time heals everything and the good memories will be preserved…

  368. Karin Pitt says:

    I am weeping at the deep truth of your words. Loss is never just that one thing-it is a tangle of emotion, memories, love and grief. Thank you for sharing, and I mourn your loss of Zoe, and celebrate your memories she helped make along the way.❤️

  369. Abhilasha says:

    I’m sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to her.

  370. Aude Gandon says:

    So sorry for your loss Scott. What a great message and beautiful tribute.

  371. Shan says:

    Beautifully written. Terribly sorry about your loss. I know that feeling after losing a pet. I hold it in my heart 6 years later. The death truly is a marker, but also one of how incredibly beautiful life is, to love & be loved. It does get easier.

  372. Andrea says:

    Sucker punch to the heart. Thanks for sharing! Grief is real , love is real. Hope your family is doing well .

  373. Boris Varshavsky says:

    Thank you for sharing this story Prof G!

  374. Scott says:

    so sorry Scott… pets really do make us human.

  375. Pat says:

    Dammit. You made me cry…

  376. Andrea says:

    Thank you for sharing your story and your emotions with us Scott. I am sorry for your loss and I hope that your sweet memories of Zoe will help you and your family to heal in time. The passage of time has never been felt more intensely for those of us of a certain age than this past year.

  377. Cliff medney says:

    We share with you and your loved ones our deepest, most heart felt sadness at the lose of Zoe. Oh Scott, the all in joy and affection, the L&D (love and devotion) of these amazing souls one has to know, experience to even begin to feel what you wrote, what it means to lose such a part of your family and life. Thanks for sharing, it matters. Cliff and Josana… and Aiden, an Airedale by birth

  378. Barbara Wagner says:

    So sorry Scott. What an amazing impact dogs have on our families. I know how much this hurts – with shared grief – sending virtual hugs.

  379. Michael d Hill jr says:

    You said it. Time is all. Life gets real complicated, then doesn’t end well. Everything we love goes away eventually. It is, IMHO, why humans create – to make some sense out of this life.

  380. Diane says:

    My heart aches for you, Scott – like you, when our children were born, our dog became – well, a dog. That doesn’t mean she wasn’t an essential part of our family. Zoe was a product of and reflected all the love you and your family gave her. That won’t go away.

  381. JAYESH RAVINDRANATH says:

    A fabulous commentary on human emotions, through the story of Zoe! 👍

  382. Ted says:

    To a fellow lover of Delray Beach, and more importantly, of vizsla’s…just a gut-wrenching story. We too have 2 boys, who also grew up with our girl vizsla’s Bailey and Cricket, and they are truly the most wonderful souls/companions and are the fabric of our everyday lives. Bailey just turned 10…and I don’t even want to think about it. Thanks for sharing Prof., and sorry for your loss.

  383. alasdair says:

    Thanks for making me cry Scott! Thank you for sharing this beautiful but sad story. Sorry for your loss.

  384. Nate says:

    Sorry for your loss. Beautiful tribute to your dog. Your posting reminded me of a great book – “Merle’s Door: Lessons from a Freethinking Dog” by Ted Kerasote. I read it on a plane after recently losing a dog. It kicked up some emotions that had me both belly laughing and sobbing in an aisle seat!

  385. James Drage says:

    Scott you may write something better in the future but you have never written anything this good that I have read before. This was as moving a piece as any of the “great writers” have ever composed. Add to your list that Zoe made you a better writer.

  386. Jana Koeberle says:

    Big tears. Thank you for sharing and for allowing us all to grieve a bit (for whatever is happening in our lives).

  387. Claire says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Scott. It is so hard to lose a pet. Don’t feel bad about crying. It’s going to be awhile before that stops. Eventually, you’ll smile when you remember her and your sons will laugh and tell stories that start “Remember when Zoe..”. It’s worth the pain of loss to have had the love.

  388. Lisa says:

    So sorry for the loss of your dear dog. We lost our 14 year old rescue a couple of weeks ago — from healthy “senior” to aggressive lymphoma diagnosis in a week. It is crushing and your capture of the loss — of the dog’s time alongside your boys — is exactly how I felt. I wish you peace and warm memories.

  389. Kadir says:

    Dude. Your posts make me cry, every.single.time! My heartfelt condolences.

  390. senya says:

    Thank you for sharing!

  391. DanB says:

    I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss!

  392. Heather Reed says:

    That’s a tough one thank you for sharing. They are truly Mans’ best friend!

  393. Bob Beckman says:

    I know that you are an avowed atheist. This is, however, the first thing that came into my mind as I read your post. John 11:25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, John 11:26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” The words “life”, “live” and “lives” are all derived from the greek word “zoe”=life as a noun/living as a verbal. The hopeful perseverance of love is found in its persistence, its permanence. A lady from our congregation died this week. In this pandemic-defined year I have performed one funeral…my fathers. I understand the grief to which you testify and how mystifying it can be. I have cried as hard for cats as I have for beloved friends and colleagues. Which might seem a little strange for a pastor. Humans are human so long as the death is never just a number. Thank you for reminding us that amongst all the silliness we all exhibit when we are most exposed to mortality the Imago Dei Shines through. You are correct, every time you say it. Life. Is. So. Rich.

  394. Margaret says:

    I would love to meet the person who wrote that line for Vision. It struck me, too, when I heard it–as deep truth and as comfort in a time when so many of us need both. (I’m grieving the loss of a dear friend a few months ago.) Peace to you and your family, and gratitude for sharing both your pain and joy.

  395. Terri says:

    I’m sitting at my desk sobbing. I recently heard a similar sentiment–grief is love with no home. I am so sorry for you and your family. Pets are awesome and loving them can be so unfair and so worth it. Now I have to figure out how to stop crying at work.

  396. Davis Liu says:

    so sorry for your loss. It’s not just a loss of a pet, but a loss of innocence, passage of time and reflection. Thank you for showing all of us what it is to be a man. It’s ok to bawl.

  397. Rich Goldfarb says:

    My Sympathies Professor Scott. Dogs are remarkable angels that ask for so little and give so much. They are a source of incredible joy, loyalty, support and love, and yes, are intertwined with so much of our lives. They seem to pass in a blink, creating a sense of unimaginable pain and loss…so intense that we question if we could endure that again. But of course, we must, because a life without a dog is missing something very special. We rescued our current dog Leylah (Anatolian Shepherd it turns out) very recently, following the passing of our black lab Whitely, our Golden Retriever Duke, and our first Golden Retriever Buster. Nothing can prepare for when that day comes. The memories are priceless, as are the new experiences. May Zoe and all our best friends that move on, RIP.

  398. Jeanne says:

    So sorry. Crying while reading about your loss of Zoe. I have a senior dog and know time is precious.

  399. Barbara Stewart says:

    Beautiful post Scott – I’m now in tears. We are on our fourth Bernese Mountain dog and grateful that she is only a puppy. Take good care of yourself.

  400. Tim Arem says:

    Thank you for posting this article on Zoe. It really hit home.

  401. Bruce says:

    They truly are family members who love unconditionally, a lesson for all of us. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.

  402. vishal says:

    just a big hug for you, man. sorry for the loss of your furry family member. sigh

  403. Patrick says:

    Thank you Scott for this truly touching post. I too look at and treasure the bond of our dog with each of our family members, a bond only strengthened this past year of forced confinement in our Brooklyn space. A part of me is saddened by the passing of time, knowing that our two kids and our unconditionally loving dog will all only be here with us for a relatively short time more (four and six years ’til college), but it also reminds me to live the now fully, accepting the finality of all things with a renewed appreciation for my family (including that four footed best friend).

  404. Michael M Thomas says:

    Good guys have pets and cry when they and any living thing dies.or suffers. Bad guys, such as you find at Mar-a-Lago, can’t do any of this..

  405. Rob says:

    I’m very sorry for your loss. May the grief fade as the joy lingers.

  406. Isabelle Pasmantier says:

    Very touching and sad, and so very personal moment and part of your life you are sharing with us Scott. It brings it all down to our essentials.. Love , Resilience and Perseverance .

  407. Michael says:

    So beautifully raw. My wife passed when our daughter was 9. The best and most healing thing we did was to get a dog. Ashton is a bitzer – he’s bitzer this and bitzer that, part lab, pit and ridgeback. We still love him so 12 years later, and I cannot imagine losing him. Thank you for showing such humanity in a very often inhumane world.

  408. Tim says:

    We lost a dog this week too on the same day. I found this so moving Scott and I love the way you relate how Zoe’s passing reinforced for you the passing of time. I completely understand. Zoe sounds like she had a beautiful life. RIP.

  409. Gui Boechat says:

    Thank you for this, Scott. So beautiful.

  410. Campbell says:

    Beautiful, moving and loving. Have had to say goodbye to 3 cats and know how tough it is. A kiwi living in Hungary I enjoyed the connection to running through our forests.

  411. Bill says:

    Thanks for a great piece of writing, Professor Galloway. My condolences on your Vizsla – we have one too, and she and I also indulge in top-secret after-hours furniture access. I am really intrigued to hear more about those “exceptionally strange” Vizala breeders, and will look forward to that post.

  412. jcworth says:

    Gosh I love you Scott. There, I have said it. I love your intellect, humanity, and humility. I love your fallibility and your aspirations. That’s it, I’m out.

  413. Giliam says:

    His comment reminds me of the singer ZAZ and the number “je veux”. For all non-French speaking people, it is about preferring to die with somebody’s hand on your heart than having “stuff” and nobody around holding your hand. O so true. This is by far the most honest and vulnerable post I have ever seen of Scott. The truth is that love and family is the most important thing in life. Coming home driving a Maserati ending up sitting on the golden couch is all irrelevant. Having piles of Twitter stocks too by the way….. maybe the American dream should be about “making it to a happy life” instead of being on top of the financial (materialistic) rock showing off. Malice

  414. Pam king says:

    So well written from heartfelt experience that really is a huge value! Thanks

  415. Alex Giedt says:

    I’m writing this with tears on my face. I used to not emote that much but ever since (over a decade ago) I had a couple of life threatening illnesses I now cry pretty easily and am glad for it (even if my 17-year old son rolls his eyes whenever he sees me weeping). I don’t know if this makes sense or really encapsulates my feelings: “Grief is evidence that you loved. And there is something exceptionally beautiful that you loved.” I hope that makes sense and, perhaps, helps. Be well

  416. Michael says:

    I never understood the pet/human relationship until we got our cat 6 years ago. And now I fully understand. Our family is much better of with him in our lives. I was immediately crying 2 sentences into your post. I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m grateful to you for sharing so honestly and reminding me of how lucky we are.

  417. Davd says:

    You are a beautiful writer and a wonderful man. Really sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is absolutely brutal and you explained the loss so well.

  418. Sean says:

    I am new to your blog Scott and this was my first reading of your written voice. I am astounded and relieved to know that there are others who seek the universe of well chosen and placed words and clamour for their effect upon the world. To further iterations of same and beyond I am looking forward.

  419. Amy says:

    I’m so sorry for you loss dearest. As a fellow pet parent, it is the love we share with them in our lives that I know lives on in our hearts. It has to, because we are part of one another in life and death. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful, loving tribute and in so doing helping us all to share our collective grief. See you & Zoe on the Rainbow Bridge some day. For now, much love to you & your family.

  420. Rick says:

    What a wonderful , beautiful story Mr. Galloway. My wife and I are going to adopt a dog. I hope our memories are as rich and meaningful as yours.

  421. Lillian Hedbloom says:

    Scott, first of all, so sorry that you have lost Zoe but it does seem that she died without pain surrounded by love. Hope I am that lucky. Second, I have ALWAYS had dogs. At least one, usually two or more. Later in life I married a person who came from a very similar background, the marriage entailed moving continents but we had (as noted) VERY similar backgrounds. I assumed he would also be happy to have at least one dog. He was not. Said our infrastructure did not support dogs. The only grain of irritant in the entire relationship and it caused me great sadness. But 8 years ago he acquiesced and suddenly a dog was possible due to another couple having divorced. The canine in question became my husband’s bosom buddy, and when we had to put him down, we both wept. My darling husband who had survived poverty, abuse, orphanage, and pretty much every plague known to humans during his childhood, with strength and reserve, could not stomach this first dog dying. He cried every morning. Every single morning. And that’s where I was able to do something. I introduced a new older dog and the a younger puppy that the older dog was willing to raise. Our grandchildren know and love these two dogs and my husband, who is now grown old (inevitable but still sorrowful) has a very happy relationship with both dogs and both grandkids, to my relief and joy. Too many words for a comment but it was about a dog.

  422. Richard White says:

    Beautifully said… having lost my fair share of dogs over the years your story really touches a cord. Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss – but look at what you’ve gained – a new ability to bawl tears at anytime in front of anyone anywhere. Cathartic and healing I think…

  423. Julia says:

    I can feel the emotions on this writing so much that I can’t stop crying..thanks for sharing such emotional/personal stories. We can all related to it in some level and perhaps have exercise more compassion towards each other on our daily lives.

  424. Golden Dog Farmer says:

    I always gain something from reading your posts, and this is one of your best. I’m grateful you shared this moment with us – and we now we grieve with you. As you always sign off – “Life is Rich” – but those of us with pets in the family know that Life is Richer with Pets. And their passing hits hard.

  425. Raymond says:

    We said goodbye to our 15-year-old Staffie about 6 months ago. It’s been hard to articulate the immense gratitude for our time with her alongside the overwhelming pain of her loss. Thank you for this piece that so eloquently did so.

  426. Mitch says:

    Scott, I’m so sorry my friend. I’ve had to do this twice and it breaks my heart. I’m crying right now for your loss. I’m really sorry.

  427. Rafael Solares says:

    Beautiful post. I have a 10 yr old Basset Hound and I am constantly thinking how difficult it is going to be for my wife, 2 kids and me when Rosco´s time is up. Your post is a beautiful way to deal with such a painful loss.

  428. HT says:

    Beautiful. Only dog lovers have a clue about the abiding love of their pets and what a rough journey it is to give them up. I’m a retired university president who cried for days when my beloved yellow lab had to be put down five years ago. I said I would never put myself through it again, but a year later, I brought home a six week old Australian Labradoodle. Joy returns along with good memories of the Lab. Yet I know the pain that awaits……but it is worth it for the love they bring.

    • Richard says:

      “Only dog lovers have a clue about the abiding love of their pets and what a rough journey it is to give them up”. Agree. I never owned a dog (got gerbils, which was enough to care for) but my dad did. His mom (my grandmother) got Lucky, who lived 10 years. My dad got Happy, who passed away after 2 years. I’m convinced my dad loved Happy more than my mom. Then again, Happy once saved my dad’s life while my mom hasn’t yet.

  429. Michelle says:

    I have cried over more cats than I have boyfriends. I lost my 17 year old cat over a year ago and my other last November. I miss them everyday and still have their blanket on my bed.

  430. Alex says:

    Someone once said to me that heaven is where all the pets you loved and lost are waiting to meet you. I’m not religious but I think I’d sign up to any religion which offered a guarantee on that. Maybe that thought offers you and your family the comfort it afforded me when I needed it.

  431. Kelly says:

    I wasn’t planning on crying today. Heartbreakingly poetic. The corporate world would be a better place if people actually showed their feelings. We need more empathy. You did a good thing on that Zoom call. Don’t ever feel guilty about that. You also did a great thing by letting Zoe on the couch, my husband does the same with our Ryder. We all know and secretly love it.

  432. Nick Holland says:

    A beautiful tribute to an emotion that persists for all the dogs I’ve loved and lost. Thank you.

  433. Sergio says:

    I teared up reading your post. I’ve always maintained that our pets are part of our family and therefore our hearts and souls. There’s no shame in grieving for a pet that’s gone to the great beyond. They’re alive as we are and need what we need, as you so eloquently wrote. My deepest condolences to you guys.

  434. Lisa Rapuano says:

    Oh, how beautiful. I lost my 56 year old husband last year and I find comfort in my two dogs, one cat and three kids. But the crying persists even as the grief integrates. I will carry the Love Perseveres framework with me from now on, thank you for that.

  435. Derek Small says:

    Our families are extended by the animals we are fortunate to be able have care for us as we care for them. The death of Zoe is the loss of a family member and will be bittersweet. I am grateful you shared this moment. Be well and take of yourself and your family.

  436. Michael Troiano says:

    Such a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing it, and I’m so sorry for your loss.

  437. John Cays says:

    Thank you for sharing your grief. I wish you and your family all the time and space you need to feel what you need to feel.

  438. Andrew Solomon says:

    This post really touched and grounded me today. Thank you.

  439. Ellen Mary Sullivan says:

    how beautiful is this. you are so courageous to so consciously expose your feelings like this. thank you.

  440. Mark Ouellette says:

    This post is as much about life as it is about Zoe- time waits for no one and as far as we know is eternal. What a wonderful tribute to Zoe and what a terrific reminder to all of us to embrace every day to its fullest, for us all all those we love. Including the Zoe’s!

  441. Melissa Attree says:

    This was magical to read, love n light to you all

  442. Nanda says:

    Sorry to hear professor. I hope you find strength. Your post was very touching and straight from the heart. You don’t know how badly I needed to read something like this and am very grateful to have read this… RIP Zoe!!!

  443. Mary says:

    So sorry for your loss. Critters are family, too.

  444. Keegan Nanan says:

    “The price of a good gun-dog is a broken heart in the end.” – Rudyard Kipling condolences

  445. Linda HARVEY says:

    So sorry for your loss Scott & family. A year ago we lost our beloved Stella after 14 years together – the most uncomplicated of relationships any of us had ever had. AND you are right – the LOVE persists and in time it helps ease the pain of not being together in this life anymore. God-Speed and Good Luck

  446. Andrew Smith Lewis says:

    Zoe Zoe Zoe Zoe…Zoe.

  447. Vonwoo says:

    Very touching. I’m sorry for your loss.

  448. Jaycee says:

    What a loving and profound tribute. It’s a gift to us all. Thank you.

  449. Steve says:

    Scott!! Waaah! Beautiful. What would we do without you.

  450. Darren Shoyer says:

    That was beautiful ❤️😢

  451. MaryLou Austin says:

    As lovely a tribute describing the loss of a dog as I’ve ever read. Thank you for describing the exquisite pain that only the loss of a family member dog can elicit. Thank you, Prof. Galloway.

  452. Georgia Pangle says:

    The tears came in that last paragraph. Animals have marked time in my life, coupled with relationships, life stages, good times and bad. They are loving, sweet companions who, we learn after the first time, we will have to lose. It’s built in. It is a bittersweet understanding that we know we will experience the loss of this beautiful, funny, loving creature. So we love them everyday give them the best life we can.

  453. tracy h. says:

    heartbreakingly beautiful. Thank you for this love note to Zoe and to all of us who have loved deeply and have had to persevere…

  454. todd says:

    Love does persevere. And you were lucky to have that with the greatest creature put on the planet. We don’t deserve what they provide. A grace and example of how to live that we can only hope to live towards- sounds like you are. Condolences to you and your family.

  455. EALLEN says:

    Oh man, what a post. Losing your pet is the worst outmatched only by watching it through your kid’s eyes. The bond we have with our pets is magical, and thankfully those memories last a lifetime.

  456. Tien says:

    Zoe now not only lives in your heart, but all of ours. What a lovely tribute, sorry for your loss professor.

  457. Patty L says:

    No words… but thank you!

  458. Nicha Ark says:

    Sending you and your family hugs from Bangkok, Thailand. I’m sorry for your loss.

  459. Nita Lathia says:

    You made me cry!

  460. Molly says:

    I could feel your pain as I was reliving the love connection our family had with our dog – the happy memories often clouded by the vivid memory of his last breath. Grief is a journey that takes time to lessen. Thanks for sharing this story of love and vulnerability.

  461. Al Blanchard says:

    What an exceptional memorial to a wonderful family member. Well done. As a 57-year-old former military man who cries like a baby when our pets pass, I can relate on so many levels (especially the time part). I’ll hug my two dogs a little tighter tonight. Again, beautiful essay reminding us what’s really important when so much media is horrible, attention-seeking theater.

  462. Ray says:

    Didn’t expect to be crying this morning. We lost our oldest years ago in a nearly identical manner and it hurt immeasurably then as your shared experience reminds me this morning. Endless condolences for you and your families loss.

  463. Wander Almeida - Brazil says:

    Dear Professor, what a touching post! Thanks for sharing. It may not seem like it but in fact we are all together on this journey called life, even if only sharing our emotions. Maybe I’m an old “Professor Scott”, at 50, married with no kids and no dogs, but I am interested in your pain at losing your dog, as I am interested in people who have lost their loved ones. Sorry for your loss. Never forget that “Life is so rich”.

  464. RJ says:

    Sigh. I thought I was done crying today. Your post is lovely, sad, and true. Thank you.

  465. Douglas McConnell says:

    Thank you for sharing. We too said goodbye to the dog our kids grew up with a couple years ago. What amazed me most about Toby was the love he inspired in us. It’s been a couple and we were finally ready to adopt a new dog at the end of 2019. About the couch thing… we were of the same mind as your family – no dogs on furniture. Luna is allowed on the couch and my wife and my son have never been happier. I guess we’ll get a leather couch, it wipes off.

  466. Juan Pedro says:

    Her energy will forever be with you and your son and she´ll be waiting for you both when it´s your time to cross the rainbow bridge. I put my 9th one down 2 weeks ago. Be at peace.

  467. luz says:

    I have been grieving the loss of Pierre (who is still very much alive) since the day I got him. Your writing reminds me of another post that I read some time ago -Andrew Sullivan on his beagle: http://dish.andrewsullivan.com/2013/08/05/over-5/. Cry on big dog it is good to let it out!

  468. Jason Hoffman says:

    I’m paraphrasing the best artist I know here: losing a pet is worse than losing a human in that our connections to other humans are always complicated by disagreements and conflicts, but our connection to a pet is pure. I mourn your loss.

  469. Andrew says:

    Big love and sincere condolences to you and your family. Andrew in the UK x

  470. Burland East says:

    cried as i read this. life without loss is not life. loss is what makes life worthwhile. its cliché, but true. thanks for reminding us all what is important.

  471. Blythe Kladney says:

    Loved this post and my heart is breaking for your loss. The bond we share with dogs is incredibly precious and like no other. We are lucky to have them when we can. Much love to you, your family, and Zoe where ever she is.

  472. Vas Bakopoulos says:

    “For the rest of my life, I’ll have sons. But I no longer have the baby who sat on a blanket with us in the backyard, the toddler who had an alliance with his dog to disappear his vegetables, or the eight year-old who rang out a particular laugh only the dog could inspire. Zoe’s death is a loss on several levels.” Yes. This made me cry.

  473. Gregory Frank says:

    Beautiful… thank you.

  474. Tanguy says:

    Thanks for sharing @profgalloway. This is hopefully the last time you make me cry 🙁

  475. Sheila Santaw Cameron says:

    Thank you, Scott. Losing a pet – dog, cat- horse lizard – is losing a member of the family – it is a painful passage! And like those whom you have loved in your life – moments of memories return years later. Aren’t we lucky though to have had them in our lives.

  476. Andrej says:

    Damn you for this sucker punch to the heart. I came for the economics, but will stay for the sentiment. Thanks Scott.

  477. Merle Berne-Schlessel says:

    My kids used to say I loved the dogs more than them. I told them not to test me. We have lost several dogs over the years. The kids are grown with children and dogs if their own. Your beautiful piece brought me to my knees. Thank you for sharing such loving thoughts about your family and beloved Zoe.

  478. nash says:

    great life that dog please donate 500 dollars to a homeless dog shelter or worthy dog charity instead it will do you a world of good and preserve the legacy of your dog to the other dogs left behind just make sure you do a vigil for her at the shelter and ask them to keep your dogs photo up for 21 days

  479. Joe Seither says:

    Pour one out for Zoe. My good boys Cairo and Cosmo greeted her warmly on the great dog beach in the sky.

  480. Dennis says:

    Insanely powerful and I think I have something in my eye. We never forget the dogs in our lives. Zoe had a great family.

  481. Alex Santiago says:

    Damn, Scott. You took me for a ride I wasn’t ready for… This one stung. Love to you and yours.

  482. Madeline Pinelli says:

    Thanks for this beautiful and inspiring post. Really learn from your work and look forward to the future

  483. Arthur Schurr says:

    His friends he loved. His direst earthly foes — Cats— I believe he did but feign to hate. My hand will miss the insinuated nose, Mine eyes the tail that wagg’d contempt at Fate. Sir William Watson

  484. phillip says:

    What a fabulous and moving tribute. Quite the most important narrative I have read all week; it re-set my priorities.

  485. RC Casey says:

    beautifully written, Scott. Rest In Peace, Zoe. And ❤️ to your family. 🙏🏼

  486. Dale Cox says:

    Oh dude! I feel you. I was a fairly poor single dad with three daughters and they convinced me to buy them a dog. I was a renter and not allowed to have a dog. I did it anyway. It was an awful dog, evil and neurotic. Home alone most of the day, loud sounds would provoke it to try to tear through doors, windows and walls. Stressed to the limit I drove it out to the county to let it go, but couldn’t do it to the kids. Eventually, I remarried and had more daughters. The dog lived a long time, until we had to put it down. “Long overdue” said the vet. I cried more than when my father died.

  487. Robert says:

    You went to a breeder? Well thats mighty liberal of you. I would have sworn you would have gone to the local rescue and get a dog there but that is NOT what todays elites do. They preach but not practice. Enjoy the Day Professor.

    • Robert is an Asshole says:

      You’re a colossal schmuck. I hope your day brings you everything you truly deserve.

  488. beth munce says:

    I’m absolutely bawling. Dogs are markers for your life, and that’s why it’s so tough to let them go when they pass.

  489. Paul Adcock says:

    A great tribute, thank you for sharing. So sorry for you and your family’s loss.

  490. Big Al says:

    Wonderful remembrance of your pooch!